Adding Intimacy To The Bedroom: Pillow Talk - Lesson 2

Lesson Two - The Art of Pillow Talk

There is a certain level of skill to using successful dirty talk in the bedroom. Of course, it's always acceptable to simply let it rip and say what's on your mind, like "faster, faster!" However, before the throes of passion take over, wowing your partner with some racy pillow talk will rev things up quickly, if done properly.

First step is to ease into the conversation and set the stage for what is to follow. Offer a tease, or a compliment. Keep it simple with a little bit of naughty involved.

For example: "Why don't you come here and let me show you how much I love every inch of you?" or "You look so damn sexy tonight."

Put the focus on them and you'll not only be catering to their sexual nature, but giving a boost to the ego, as well, which will help your lover have more confidence in returning your pillow talk efforts. Notice, you don't have to use explicit language to convey the meaning to your partner. Not to say that you shouldn't. Only you and your partner know the limits.

Once you've peaked their interest, continue to up the heat level in your talk by giving a play by play of how you feel, what you intend to do, or how he/she could bring you more pleasure.

For example: "That makes me so hot when you touch me there." or "I want to ride on top tonight.." Again, use what comes to mind and comes naturally to you. Use a little creativity and remember, you are spicing up your love making, not having a conversation over dinner. Though, feel free to use dirty talk during your supper, you might find that night's dessert extra appealing.

Lastly, don't over-focus. Once the conversation is underway and the heat level is rising, enjoy the moment and don't worry about what to say next.

Here are a few exercises for you to try out before you make the move to creative pillow talk in the bedroom:

Practice saying words or phrases you might typically shy away from. If the word cock makes you laugh when you say it, recite it in the context of a sentence a few times until you no longer feel the urge to blush and giggle. The last thing you want to do is turn your sexy pillow play into a comedy of errors.

Read erotic literature aloud. Not only will this aid your comfort level, it will spark new ideas, phrases, and add to your bedroom vocabulary. You may also want to consider reading favorite passages to your lover instead of coming up with your own seductive phrases. To take things a step further, read your favorite passages and then tell your lover that's what you want to do to them, or have done to you. Try authors like Anne Leland http://www.anneleland.com and books from Midnight Showcase or Ellora's Cave.

Ask for your partner's help. If you are hesitant, embarrassed, or just simply not sure your partner will respond well to sensual talk, ask for their involvement upfront. Better yet, show them this article and say "I'd like to try this tonight? What do you think?" Chances are, opening up the dialogue ahead of time will assuage your concerns and get the proverbial ball rolling!

Consider using props. There are a multitude of games and other prompts available through a variety of outlets. Purchase one to use in the bedroom to spark your dirty talk efforts or use your creative hand to make your own. Take a set of index cards and write a variety of instructional phrases on them such as "Massage the body part of your choice for two minutes and tell your partner how it feels or makes you feel" and "Share a fantasy encounter you'd like to have with your partner." This will prompt both you and your partner to engage in a passionate conversation.

Read up on new positions, techniques, toys, or anything else that sparks your imagination. Then share the information with your partner. Sometimes talking about the acts or introducing new sexy information into your conversation will have as powerful a stimuli effect on your passion triggers as coming up with pillow phrases will. A good resources for this purpose is http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com/

Now that you have the knowledge and the resources, your homework for today is to take your learning and talk dirty to me! Okay, well, don't talk dirty to me; talk dirty to your partner. I just couldn't resist putting in another reference to an 80's classic.

By Barb Webb: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/99163/use_bedroom_basics_to_add_intimacy_pg2.html?cat=41