7 Ways To Make Your Love Life More Sensual....

When you're first dating, you don't know when or even if you're going to make love. The anticipation is exciting, and you often spend quality time kissing and building up to that moment when you finally "do it."
Once a relationship is established, couples all too often stick to the same old sexual routines, trying to get right to the big O without allowing their passion to build up. Foreplay becomes short and sweet, and sensuality is an afterthought. But these habits tend to make climax…downright anticlimactic.
The good news is that you don't have to do it in public or buy expensive sex toys to give your sex life a boost. You just need a sensuality injection. To a large degree, sensuality is the art of the tease. It engages your senses and gives you the means to create sexual tension.

With that in mind, the following seven ideas can help you to build desire toward a more exciting finale—with or without the big explosion. In fact, you can try these ideas when you don't have the time or energy for sex, allowing these moments to build over a few days until you can finally get more delicious time together. Stop Settling for So-So Sex!
1. Tickle and tease. Gather several soft items, such as lambswool, a feather, silk or velvet fabric, and/or a flower like a rose or orchid. Ask your lover to close his or her eyes, and try lightly teasing and stroking your lover's body with these items. Choose sensitive spots like the side of the neck, the nipples, the palms and the genitals. Ask your lover to guess what you're using to tease and tickle.
2. Face to face. You kiss, but how often do you touch your lover's face with your fingertips? Using a scented moisturizer, take turns lightly stroking each other's faces, building to a gentle massage. Do it with your eyes closed, as if you're sculpting a beautiful figure in clay. You'll be amazed how beautiful your partner's bone structure feels without the interference of sight, and you'll discover just how responsive your facial skin is to your lover's touch.
3. Melt in your mouth. Place a chocolate truffle in your mouth and kiss before you swallow. If this idea turns you on, you can try it with any number of soft foods that don't require much chewing, like a peach, cheesecake or ice cream. It may sound strange at first, but it can be incredibly sensual and playful.
4. Kissing experiment. Most couples become so involved with the main erogenous zones that other sensitive parts of the body are neglected. So, as a game, look for some of those neglected places on your lover's body. Take turns exploring with kisses and teasing licks. Where should you start? Try that area in front of the ear on the face, the jawline, tops of the ears, palms, wrists, inside of the elbows, shoulders, back of the neck, underside of the breasts, backs of the knees, and toes.
5. Monkey see, monkey do. If you've ever been to the zoo, you've seen monkeys grooming each other. It works for people, too, and is a very sensual and sexy thing to do. So, shave his face, paint her nails, wash and brush each other's hair or bathe each other slowly. Try to get your nose involved, too, with products that smell good.
6. Icing on the cake. Pick up your favorite flavor of cake icing, and ask your lover to lie naked on the bed or the floor. (If you're worried about making a mess, put some plastic underneath you.) Then, dip your finger in the icing and write or draw on your lover's body. If one of you is very ticklish, add a bit more pressure to your touch to make it less ticklish. If you want to have even more fun with it, try writing sexy messages and see if your lover can guess what you're writing on his or her body. Then, of course, you'll have the fun of licking off the icing. 5 Romantic Ways To Use Food
7. Exhale. If you and your partner enjoy the light, teasing touch, try it without touching at all—just use your breath! Of course, you can only stand this for so long, but the tension it creates can really lead to a great climax. Lightly blow on the main erogenous zones—the ears (of course), the sides of the neck, the nipples, the palms and between the legs, until your lover begs you to touch, squeeze, kiss, etc.

Source: Your Tango Original Article

Put in work around the house

Guys in general hate doing things. But you involve women, and the chance of sex, suddenly we do all kinds of stuff that suuuuucks!

like dishes!

Being a handyman around the house is allegedly a good thing from a woman's perspective, they admire a guy's ability to solve problems around the house and congratulate you like you won the super bowl when you fix things like squeaky door hinges ( or at least they should.)

no more noisy doors!!

So what, you may be asking, does all of this have to do with sex?  Basically, everything.  But to be honest, it was the only tie in I could think of for the under the sink sex position




Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

Again, the guy is going to work, and again, the reward will be sex, but if you are under the sink, sex is pretty much guaranteed, not so if you mow the lawn...

if you notice, both are breathing at the same time in the pic above, but I dont think thats part of the position, you can breathe at your own rate. All you need is your girl to stand above you while you rest on your back on a bed or whatever happens to be the right height for her  to straddle your face! then get to work guy! Let her do all the rocking and leaning, to make sure it feels just right,while you work  your tongue, but dont let her sit on your head, as this may cause neck strain and uncomfortability. Once you become pro, you can switch it up to all kinds of different positions!!!!!    And apparently, there is quite a love for having your face be a seat for women. Enjoy!


                                                  (courtesy of facesitting-queening.com)

Doin' it for America!

The Power and Science of Touch

A kiss. A cuddle. A stroke of the hair. Hands held. Noses nuzzled. Want to know the state of a relationship? Watch how a couple touches each other—before, during and after sex. As you very well may know, the sexual act is more than just penetration, and can take many different forms. Here are some examples:

• Drunken college co-eds initiate intercourse with a massage on a dorm room bed. They have sex, pass out promptly and one leaves the other early the next morning. Both are relieved.
• Couple in a new relationship feel as if they can't live without each other. When they have sex, they devour each other. Afterward, they stare into one another's eyes, stroke one another's face and breathe one another's breath.
• Long-time lovers prepare for bed with their nighttime ritual. He helps her unfasten her bra. She rubs that sore spot on his back. They make love and fall asleep in the usual position, back to stomach: a spoon.

"Penetration may be the culmination," says Dr. Dorree Lynn, author of Sex For Grownups, "but sex is a process with a beginning, middle and end," with touch playing an important role throughout.
Before sex, you touch someone initially to let them know they are desired. The clumsy massage. The hand across the table. The grooming of a wayward combover. From their response, you know how to proceed. Holding Hands Is Ridiculously Good For You.

During the act, of course, touch creates arousal and, ultimately, brings about the orgasm.
Afterward, touch completes the act, winding you down as it wound you up. In your vulnerability, you lay in each other's arms. Fingers slowly caress as bodies regain equilibrium. As you drift asleep, toes touch toes. The connection is not broken.

"Touching lets you know that your partner is involved with you, and that you're not just two genitals that have done their thing," says Dr. Lynn. "For women, touching is validation that she is more than a receptacle."


Touch lets people know they are connected. Touch lets someone know, "I want to be with you." It says, "I want more of this."

"Healthy touching," Dr. Lynn adds, "is touching that brings two people together and makes them then want to touch more, and that's a combination of physiology and psychology."

So what happens in our bodies when we touch each other sexually? Why is touch so powerful? The unromantic answer is that our brains are affronted with a deluge of chemicals that change both us and how we relate to our partner. When A Kiss Is More Than Just A Kiss.

Pheromones attract. Testosterone drives the two of you into bed. Dopamine provides the rush at climax. Phenylethylamine (PEA) gives you the euphoria of new love. Oxytocin, however, is what brings you back for more, and to that person specifically. It's what bonds you to one another, and it is what's behind the stimulation, confirmation and validation touching brings to the relationship. Or, as Yu Kun Zhang says in The Chemistry of Love and Monogamy, "Chemicals such as ... PEA 'create' love, whereas hormones such as oxytocin increase our passion for love and the likelihood that we stay it."

Also known as "the cuddle hormone," oxytocin is secreted from the pituitary glad during touch—sex, birth, breast feeding, even hand-holding—and bathes the brain and reproductive tracts of both men and women (although to a higher degree in women). Once stimulated, it helps you feel a connection and bond with your partner. As Theresa Chrenshaw, M.D., explains in her book, The Alchemy of Love and Lust:

Oxytocin is a marvelous molecule, influencing our life through touch. It is a crucial bonding agent for relationships—think of is as hormonal superglue... [It] bonds and attaches up to those we love, or perhaps causes us to love those it bonds us to—mates, family, friends, babies. It is deeply involved in parenting behaviors, causes contractions of the uterus during childbirth and orgasm, reduces stress, and, most importantly, keeps us "in touch" with each other. Curiously enough, it also make us forgetful and diminishes our capacity to think and reason.

During foreplay, touch-induced oxytocin increases trust and reduces fear. It modulates blood pressure and reduces levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. In rats, it causes spontaneous erections in males and increased sexual receptivity in females. Research has even shown that oxytocin helps produce more intense orgasms, which makes sense since anxiety and stress are often to blame for male impotence and female sexual dysfunction.

During orgasm and beyond, it continues to be released. And while you are laying in your lover's arms, brushing lips, holding hands, it is there, creating feelings of contentment, calmness and security that seem to come from your mate.

This "cuddle hormone" flows to the rescue of what otherwise could be a short-lived relationship, says Crenshaw. It's the "hormonal superglue" that keeps us connected to one another long after the initial rush of love and lust wear out. It's what makes casual sex so difficult—oxytocin creates "feelings" for the other person. It ruins what should have been a quick getaway. The Chemistry of Love

Oxytocin's effects are not always welcome. For people who lack love or a desire for intimacy with their partner, touching may not feel good. According to Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction,

Sometimes people touch each other but one or both people don't feel "turned on" by it. The release of oxytocin does NOT guarantee feelings of arousal or closeness. It can feel good to be touched but not arousing. Similarly, even if oxytocin is released, if one doesn't feel close to or trusting of the person touching them, their emotional response (dread, fear, annoyance, etc) can make them experience the event as not-pleasurable or as a turn-off rather than a turn-on.

Really enjoying touch and the bonding power that oxytocin delivers requires the ability to tolerate or embrace intimacy. When touch doesn't feel good, something is off kilter with the relationship. WebMD Explores Falling In Love.

Though science can explain what makes us feel romantic, loved, attached, it can't capture the beauty and power of those feelings. Luckily, poets have long since canonized the power of touch between two lovers.

So the bed, as though consciously, has received its two lovers. And the door is shut. Muse, you must wait outside: They don't need you, now, to prompt their whispered endearments, their hands won't be idle, fingers will learn what to do in those hidden parts where Love's unnoticed darts transfix the flesh...
Believe me, love's acme of pleasure must not be hurried, but drawn insensibly on—and when you've found those places a woman adores to have touched up, don't let any feeling of shame prevent you, go right in.

—Ovid

Source: The Tango Original Article

Lesson in Lingerie

If you could translate my underwear drawer into a pie chart, you’d see one big chunk—some 75 percent—dedicated to basic black bikinis. A small 20 percent would indicate the ratty days-of-the-week skivvies that are verging on seven years old (I know). The remaining sliver would count for the few “sexy” underthings I own—a lacy pink thong, a hot but poorly fitting corset-inspired bra, some sheer boyshorts.

There are certain things I hate to spend money on, and underwear is one of them. In the past, the idea of wearing seductive undergarments had always been appealing, but when I really thought about it, lingerie seemed problematic. First of all, I’d need someone to wear it for, because that ladymag tip of “wearing sexy underwear for yourself” has never done anything for me. Also, was it worth it to drop the money? Assuming I had someone who would appreciate it, wouldn’t it just come off right away, or remain completely covered for most of its time out of the drawer?

So, here’s the truth: Up until a couple days ago, I’d never even so much as gone near a garter belt. I was really into dressing up as a kid, but in my grownup life, I’ve been completely self-conscious of everyday role-playing and mask-wearing, and I’m painfully aware of when I’m doing it. That’s a large part of why I’ve never made a purchase at Victoria’s Secret or La Perla. Another has been body issues. The thought of going to Agent Provocateur to squeeze myself into a demi-cup bra only to stare at my white, slightly muffin-toppy gut in a dressing room mirror is worse to me than spending a day at Disneyland hungover.

A few months ago, things changed when I entered into a serious relationship. The kind of relationship where you start asking yourself, Is this the last person I will have sex with for the rest of my life? (And really, who knows?)
That’s not exactly what prompted our discussion about sexy bedtime attire, but for me it was an underlying factor. Was I comfortable enough with this potential partner to push boundaries in bed—something that feels important for me for the person I’ll marry. But also, my body insecurities felt like they were melting away for the first time. He was completely turned on by my shape and loved me as I was, and the image in the mirror literally began shifting shape for me soon after we got together. All of a sudden, my stomach didn’t seem that huge, my breasts maybe weren’t so droopy, and my hips were proportional with my torso. I could actually look at myself naked in the mirror and not wince.

Things started innocently when one night I wore an example of that mere five percent of my underwear collection—a pink thong with tie-able ribbons at the sides (like unwrapping a present!) and a DKNY black lace bra. It drove him insane. (Just so you know: my normal sexytime attire does not include anything disgusting or ratty, but rather, I’m a basic black kind of girl.) I told him I wished I could wear something hot for him, and we cuddled up to my laptop to gush over online pics at Agent Provocateur and Kiki de Montparnasse. Oooh, he cooed. I’d love to see you in that.

Finding something appropriate took a while. I’m living in France, so there are no Victoria’s Secrets here, and little in between the low-end stuff and the extreme high end. To make matters worse, many French lines don’t carry my size—a 34 D—because French women have the smallest tits in the world. When a lingerie-obsessed friend visited me, she took me to H&M where we both tried on some two dozen get-ups, and nothing fit right, and everything felt cheap. There was no way my fantasy would be hot if I was wearing something completely cheap, I decided.

On a trip back to the States, I decided to stock up, and spent time putting together three outfits to bring back to my man in Paris—a thigh-length black lace bodice I got on sale at Topshop, a vintage-inspired pink lace teddy from Victoria’s Secret, and another black slip-like get-up to pair with a garter belt and stockings.
I didn’t wear anything sexy on the flight over to France—how could I? And ugh, so gross to sit in something for so long. So I wondered how I’d surprise him without him seeing me get into my lingerie. After we got home, there was a good enough excuse: not enough toilet paper in the house. After he left to go pick some up at the store, I frantically stuffed myself into the Topshop black lace body and pulled on the stockings to find that OMG, WTF are these things that attach them?? I fumbled nervously to get it all done in 10 minutes, flinging myself onto the bed, sweating profusely and wondering, Do I look sexy in this position? Maybe I should sit up more ... oh my God, I am so sweaty.

Somehow I collected himself and by the time he got back, I was comfortably styled and ready. With anticipation, I waited for the moment, expecting myself to feel something ... I wasn’t sure what.
Unsurprisingly, he was knocked off his socks.

As for me ... I felt good, yes. Sexy, yes. But I still felt like myself. I had somehow expected to turn into someone else, to step into a movie. But none of that happened. Nevertheless, there was something for me about dressing up that wasn’t exactly sexual. What was wonderful was this: I loved the way my body looked and I loved the overall style I’d created. I was so excited (um, as was he) that I ended up spoiling all my other outfit reserves by modeling them all in one evening.

Needless to say, not one of them stayed on for very long.

By Leonora Epstein  Click here for original article

Wheelbarrow

Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

The latest edition of the weekly sex position is the Wheelbarrow!  Pretty self explanatory how they came up with the name, since you pick up your partner while they are on all fours, and have the one receiving prop themselves up with their hands, looking like a sexy wheelbarrow. There is a lot of lifting and balancing involved, so this may turn into exhausted doggy after too long, which no one has used for a sex position name yet, so patent pending! 

Give it a try! be sure to leave comments as to how this position worked for you and your partner.

Do What Wifey Wants

5 Ways to Get Your Wife to Have More Sex With You

Monday, August 16, 2010 (original post here)
By Logan Levkoff

 Bill Wadman

Logan Levkoff, Ph. D

OK guys, stop all your whining and complaining for a second and listen up: If you want more sex from your wives, you have to grow up and recognize that people change, relationships change, and your sex life doesn’t stay the same.

As a sexologist, relationship expert, and contributor to Good in Bed, the one question I’m constantly asked is: "How can I get my wife to have more sex with me?" Well, I also happen to be a wife and mother of two little ones, so I’m going to give it to you straight. Here’s my advice for not screwing it up and actually getting some tonight:

1. Snuggle, Don’t Grope. You’re in the mood, so you reach out and grab us—our breasts, butt, or genitals, that is. Guys, believe me when I tell you that this is the biggest sin you can commit when trying to seduce a woman. It will not send us into an orgasmic swoon. (And, hey, if it does, you don’t need my advice, right?). Neither will groping us in the kitchen while we’re unloading the dishwasher.

 only looking for dish soap

These inept moves don’t get us all hot and bothered — they just upset us. Try hugging or kissing. Hold and squeeze our hand. Unload the dishwasher yourself. Women want to feel connected to our partners—in ways that don’t always involve sex.                                                                                                          

As guys, you see something sexy and suddenly you’re in the mood for sex, ready to go. You pick up the mail, there’s a Victoria Secret catalog in the box, and next thing we know you’re sniffing in our direction like a dog expecting a treat. But women don’t work like that. We may see something that’s sexy, and that something may even be you, but we don’t suddenly want to have sex. That’s where men and women differ: You have to actually put us in the mood. You have to make us feel sexy and make us want to be sexual.
Here’s a tip: Did you know that studies show that if you hug for partner for 30 seconds it raises her oxytocin levels? Oxytocin is a hormone that makes us feel loving and connected and helps put us in the mood. So start with a hug.

2. Don’t Treat Us Like Porn Stars. Just because you can pay to watch a chick with fake boobs and a fake tan fawn all over some hairy, grunting guy doesn’t mean you can treat us like some 30-second money shot. Women crave seduction. We crave pleasure. We want sex to be, well, sexy, not like some third-rate porn production. I’m not saying you won’t get those little surprise treats now and then—but you’ve got to work for them. Luckily, the brain is our biggest sex organ, and most women have fantasy lives that leave your porn sites in the dust. You know one of the reasons why women aren’t more into porn? Because almost all of it is created by men and for men, who don’t have a clue about what really turns a woman on. Wanna know what does turn us on? Ask us, engage us. Which brings me to…

2. Do Unto Others. Want hot sex? You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Simply put, you’ve got to give as good as you get. Do I need to spell it out for you? If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours, too! And if you do it first? All the better. Most women orgasm best from clitoral stimulation.

4. Give Us Space. It seems counterintuitive, but letting your partner have some time to herself can help her recharge. Offer to watch the kids for a few hours so she can meet a friend for coffee, take a book to the beach, or relax in a bubble bath. This "time off" lets her wind down so that later she’ll be ready to heat up. And by the way, watching your kids isn’t "babysitting". They’re your children—play with them like you mean it. Be a dad, not a bachelor. Remember, a lot of us find nothing sexier than a dad who’s into his kids.

5. Talk—and Listen. I know, I know: Many of you would probably rather clean that toilet than be forced to "communicate." But I’m not asking for an hours-long heart-to-heart here. Spending 20 minutes connecting with your partner and listening to her talk can help her feel appreciated. Avoid stressful topics like your kids, work, and home and stick to larger issues like current events and the world around you. Respond with full sentences, not grunts. If you can remember and repeat something she said 12 hours later, she’ll be impressed—and you’ll be one step closer to sex.

Fun Sex Facts of the Day! Part 5 The End

1. 3% of women plan household chores during sex.

 

2. During the 19th century, the vibrator was used as a treatment for female "hysteria".  Doctors found the treatment extremely time-consuming.

 

3.  Sex toys were banned in Texas until 2008.  Similar bans still stand in Alabama and Mississippi.

 

4. Axillism is the act of using the armpit for sex.

Fun Sex Facts of the Day! Part 4

1.  Republicans enjoy their sex lives more and are more likely to dress erotically to spice things up than their Democrat counterparts.  Though on average Republicans lose their virginity later in life then Democrats.

2.  35% of the under 35 crowd said they use Facebook or Twitter after sex.  Men are twice as likely to post updates post-coitus.

3.  Two of the leading causes of temporary impotence in men are cigartette smoking and tight pants.

4.  Known as erotic asphyxiation, cutting off oxygen to your brain to feel a strong new sensation during sex causes 100-1,000 American deaths every year.  INXS lead singer Michael Huchence was rumored to have died from erotic asphyxiation.  Action star David Carradine's death was ruled as accidental asphyxiation from the sex game gone wrong.

5.  48% of Englishmen fall asleep during sex.

6.  1 in 12 Canadians reported having sexual activity while they were fast asleep.  Men are the main culprits, accounting for 3/4 of these sexsomniacs.

Fun Sex Facts of the Day! Part 3

Top 3 Sex Fact of the Day!

1.  Miami beats out other U.S. cities for the longest sex sessions:  35 minutes.

 

2.  Phoenix, Chicago, and Denver has the shortest at 26 minutes.

 

3.  Cold feet may be to black for your lack of orgasm (literally).  In the UK, 80% of couples wearing socks during intercourse were able to reach orgasm, compared to 50% of sockless people that weren't.

 

Fun Sex Facts of the Day! Part 2

Top 5 Sex Facts of the Day!

1.  About 200 calories are burned during a fierce sex session...which is equivalent to running 15 minutes on a treadmill.

 

2.  More women talk dirty during sex than men.

 

3.  40% of college students know someone who has slept with a professor or teaching assistant.

 

4.  It is estimated that 1.1 million men and 8000,000 women aged 25-45 in the U.S. have never had sex.

 

5.  June is the most common month Americans lose their virginity.

Fun Sex Facts of the Day!

Top 3 interesting sex facts of the day!

1. Sexual thoughts enter the average 18-30 year old male's brain every 52 seconds, and it's estimated that intercourse is taking place about 2,778 times every 5 seconds around the world.  What else didn't you know about the thing you think about most?

2.  More people under 40 have sex on a weekly basis then those who vote during the presidential election every 4 years. 

3.  12% of women said if they were propositioned for sex by a president, they'd do it.

8 Things Men Want Women To Do In Bed

Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry Filed in: sex
11:00AM, Monday July 19th 2010 from thefrisky.com

Contrary to popular belief, guys aren’t satisfied with just getting laid. They want it to be good and exciting too. I know—so demanding. But I aim to please and with that in mind, I convinced a couple of guys I know to confess what they really wish women did more of in the sack.

1. Tell Him What To Do: This was the most common request from the guys I talked to—they’re dying for a little instruction. Guy parts are different from girl parts and sometimes they need to hear what you want. “A lot of the time, mind and body reading is the only way to know what a woman wants,” said one dude. “That’s an art that young men like myself are working on but won’t be able to perfect without some direction or just lots of trial and error.” Likewise, another hunky male friend of mine said, “Every girl is a little different about what they like, how they like it, and at what frequency and pressure. It’s okay to just shout out ‘Hey! Put your tongue here!’ It helps everybody.”

 trial and error

2. Leave A Little Hair: For now, Brazil has won the pubic battle, but some guys don’t want going bare to win the war. “Too many women are too bald,” said one guy. “There are lots of guys that like the ‘70s porn star look. Goddamn, I’ll take a ‘70s porn star—who actually looks like a real woman—over a contemporary porn star—who looks like a plastic cyborg Barbie—any day.” Just a sec, I need to replace my waxer’s number in my phone with this guy’s digits.

 as seen on I love the 70's

3. Channel Your Inner Truck Driver: While you’re telling him what you want him to do and how to do it, get a little filthy with your vocabulary. “I love it when women use any combination of the words ‘c**k, p**sy, wet, come, and all over,’” said one potty-mouthed hottie.

4. Swallow: I would explain this one further, but my mouth is full.

5. Masturbate: I’ll admit it. I kind of like watching a dude jerk off, but sometimes they’re shy about it. Likewise, gals can be bashful about diddling in front of their man—don’t be. Dudes like to watch. Rubbing one out for his viewing pleasure also gives him visual instruction to go along with the verbal mentioned in #1.

6. Rub Him Everywhere Else Too: “I would seriously love the occasional back rub or any unsolicited massage,” said Derek. Yes, his penis is his number one erogenous zone. But don’t neglect his less boneriffic parts—a back rub shows you care about him, not just getting him off.

7. Be Open-Minded: “Humor us when we want to try something you think is different or weird,” said Tom. “Don’t immediately say no and dismiss it. We’re boys, we’re curious and chances are we’ll try it once and lose interest anyways.” That’s not to say you should give up anal if you absolutely hate it, but if he’s interested in playing with handcuffs or role-playing, for example, don’t automatically dismiss the idea as him being pervy.

8. Don’t Hold Back: With the exception of being on top, most standard sexual positions put the dude in the driver’s seat, in that they’re doing all the thrusting—but that is not any excuse for just lying there. “If you want to be on top, get on top,” said Paul. “If you want it to be more rough, get rough with us. We don’t mind doing the work, but we don’t want to be the only ones who put in the effort.”

Now that we’ve read through that laundry list of requests, what do you wish men did more of in the sack?