7 Ways To Make Your Love Life More Sensual....

When you're first dating, you don't know when or even if you're going to make love. The anticipation is exciting, and you often spend quality time kissing and building up to that moment when you finally "do it."
Once a relationship is established, couples all too often stick to the same old sexual routines, trying to get right to the big O without allowing their passion to build up. Foreplay becomes short and sweet, and sensuality is an afterthought. But these habits tend to make climax…downright anticlimactic.
The good news is that you don't have to do it in public or buy expensive sex toys to give your sex life a boost. You just need a sensuality injection. To a large degree, sensuality is the art of the tease. It engages your senses and gives you the means to create sexual tension.

With that in mind, the following seven ideas can help you to build desire toward a more exciting finale—with or without the big explosion. In fact, you can try these ideas when you don't have the time or energy for sex, allowing these moments to build over a few days until you can finally get more delicious time together. Stop Settling for So-So Sex!
1. Tickle and tease. Gather several soft items, such as lambswool, a feather, silk or velvet fabric, and/or a flower like a rose or orchid. Ask your lover to close his or her eyes, and try lightly teasing and stroking your lover's body with these items. Choose sensitive spots like the side of the neck, the nipples, the palms and the genitals. Ask your lover to guess what you're using to tease and tickle.
2. Face to face. You kiss, but how often do you touch your lover's face with your fingertips? Using a scented moisturizer, take turns lightly stroking each other's faces, building to a gentle massage. Do it with your eyes closed, as if you're sculpting a beautiful figure in clay. You'll be amazed how beautiful your partner's bone structure feels without the interference of sight, and you'll discover just how responsive your facial skin is to your lover's touch.
3. Melt in your mouth. Place a chocolate truffle in your mouth and kiss before you swallow. If this idea turns you on, you can try it with any number of soft foods that don't require much chewing, like a peach, cheesecake or ice cream. It may sound strange at first, but it can be incredibly sensual and playful.
4. Kissing experiment. Most couples become so involved with the main erogenous zones that other sensitive parts of the body are neglected. So, as a game, look for some of those neglected places on your lover's body. Take turns exploring with kisses and teasing licks. Where should you start? Try that area in front of the ear on the face, the jawline, tops of the ears, palms, wrists, inside of the elbows, shoulders, back of the neck, underside of the breasts, backs of the knees, and toes.
5. Monkey see, monkey do. If you've ever been to the zoo, you've seen monkeys grooming each other. It works for people, too, and is a very sensual and sexy thing to do. So, shave his face, paint her nails, wash and brush each other's hair or bathe each other slowly. Try to get your nose involved, too, with products that smell good.
6. Icing on the cake. Pick up your favorite flavor of cake icing, and ask your lover to lie naked on the bed or the floor. (If you're worried about making a mess, put some plastic underneath you.) Then, dip your finger in the icing and write or draw on your lover's body. If one of you is very ticklish, add a bit more pressure to your touch to make it less ticklish. If you want to have even more fun with it, try writing sexy messages and see if your lover can guess what you're writing on his or her body. Then, of course, you'll have the fun of licking off the icing. 5 Romantic Ways To Use Food
7. Exhale. If you and your partner enjoy the light, teasing touch, try it without touching at all—just use your breath! Of course, you can only stand this for so long, but the tension it creates can really lead to a great climax. Lightly blow on the main erogenous zones—the ears (of course), the sides of the neck, the nipples, the palms and between the legs, until your lover begs you to touch, squeeze, kiss, etc.

Source: Your Tango Original Article

Put in work around the house

Guys in general hate doing things. But you involve women, and the chance of sex, suddenly we do all kinds of stuff that suuuuucks!

like dishes!

Being a handyman around the house is allegedly a good thing from a woman's perspective, they admire a guy's ability to solve problems around the house and congratulate you like you won the super bowl when you fix things like squeaky door hinges ( or at least they should.)

no more noisy doors!!

So what, you may be asking, does all of this have to do with sex?  Basically, everything.  But to be honest, it was the only tie in I could think of for the under the sink sex position




Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

Again, the guy is going to work, and again, the reward will be sex, but if you are under the sink, sex is pretty much guaranteed, not so if you mow the lawn...

if you notice, both are breathing at the same time in the pic above, but I dont think thats part of the position, you can breathe at your own rate. All you need is your girl to stand above you while you rest on your back on a bed or whatever happens to be the right height for her  to straddle your face! then get to work guy! Let her do all the rocking and leaning, to make sure it feels just right,while you work  your tongue, but dont let her sit on your head, as this may cause neck strain and uncomfortability. Once you become pro, you can switch it up to all kinds of different positions!!!!!    And apparently, there is quite a love for having your face be a seat for women. Enjoy!


                                                  (courtesy of facesitting-queening.com)

Doin' it for America!

The Power and Science of Touch

A kiss. A cuddle. A stroke of the hair. Hands held. Noses nuzzled. Want to know the state of a relationship? Watch how a couple touches each other—before, during and after sex. As you very well may know, the sexual act is more than just penetration, and can take many different forms. Here are some examples:

• Drunken college co-eds initiate intercourse with a massage on a dorm room bed. They have sex, pass out promptly and one leaves the other early the next morning. Both are relieved.
• Couple in a new relationship feel as if they can't live without each other. When they have sex, they devour each other. Afterward, they stare into one another's eyes, stroke one another's face and breathe one another's breath.
• Long-time lovers prepare for bed with their nighttime ritual. He helps her unfasten her bra. She rubs that sore spot on his back. They make love and fall asleep in the usual position, back to stomach: a spoon.

"Penetration may be the culmination," says Dr. Dorree Lynn, author of Sex For Grownups, "but sex is a process with a beginning, middle and end," with touch playing an important role throughout.
Before sex, you touch someone initially to let them know they are desired. The clumsy massage. The hand across the table. The grooming of a wayward combover. From their response, you know how to proceed. Holding Hands Is Ridiculously Good For You.

During the act, of course, touch creates arousal and, ultimately, brings about the orgasm.
Afterward, touch completes the act, winding you down as it wound you up. In your vulnerability, you lay in each other's arms. Fingers slowly caress as bodies regain equilibrium. As you drift asleep, toes touch toes. The connection is not broken.

"Touching lets you know that your partner is involved with you, and that you're not just two genitals that have done their thing," says Dr. Lynn. "For women, touching is validation that she is more than a receptacle."


Touch lets people know they are connected. Touch lets someone know, "I want to be with you." It says, "I want more of this."

"Healthy touching," Dr. Lynn adds, "is touching that brings two people together and makes them then want to touch more, and that's a combination of physiology and psychology."

So what happens in our bodies when we touch each other sexually? Why is touch so powerful? The unromantic answer is that our brains are affronted with a deluge of chemicals that change both us and how we relate to our partner. When A Kiss Is More Than Just A Kiss.

Pheromones attract. Testosterone drives the two of you into bed. Dopamine provides the rush at climax. Phenylethylamine (PEA) gives you the euphoria of new love. Oxytocin, however, is what brings you back for more, and to that person specifically. It's what bonds you to one another, and it is what's behind the stimulation, confirmation and validation touching brings to the relationship. Or, as Yu Kun Zhang says in The Chemistry of Love and Monogamy, "Chemicals such as ... PEA 'create' love, whereas hormones such as oxytocin increase our passion for love and the likelihood that we stay it."

Also known as "the cuddle hormone," oxytocin is secreted from the pituitary glad during touch—sex, birth, breast feeding, even hand-holding—and bathes the brain and reproductive tracts of both men and women (although to a higher degree in women). Once stimulated, it helps you feel a connection and bond with your partner. As Theresa Chrenshaw, M.D., explains in her book, The Alchemy of Love and Lust:

Oxytocin is a marvelous molecule, influencing our life through touch. It is a crucial bonding agent for relationships—think of is as hormonal superglue... [It] bonds and attaches up to those we love, or perhaps causes us to love those it bonds us to—mates, family, friends, babies. It is deeply involved in parenting behaviors, causes contractions of the uterus during childbirth and orgasm, reduces stress, and, most importantly, keeps us "in touch" with each other. Curiously enough, it also make us forgetful and diminishes our capacity to think and reason.

During foreplay, touch-induced oxytocin increases trust and reduces fear. It modulates blood pressure and reduces levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. In rats, it causes spontaneous erections in males and increased sexual receptivity in females. Research has even shown that oxytocin helps produce more intense orgasms, which makes sense since anxiety and stress are often to blame for male impotence and female sexual dysfunction.

During orgasm and beyond, it continues to be released. And while you are laying in your lover's arms, brushing lips, holding hands, it is there, creating feelings of contentment, calmness and security that seem to come from your mate.

This "cuddle hormone" flows to the rescue of what otherwise could be a short-lived relationship, says Crenshaw. It's the "hormonal superglue" that keeps us connected to one another long after the initial rush of love and lust wear out. It's what makes casual sex so difficult—oxytocin creates "feelings" for the other person. It ruins what should have been a quick getaway. The Chemistry of Love

Oxytocin's effects are not always welcome. For people who lack love or a desire for intimacy with their partner, touching may not feel good. According to Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction,

Sometimes people touch each other but one or both people don't feel "turned on" by it. The release of oxytocin does NOT guarantee feelings of arousal or closeness. It can feel good to be touched but not arousing. Similarly, even if oxytocin is released, if one doesn't feel close to or trusting of the person touching them, their emotional response (dread, fear, annoyance, etc) can make them experience the event as not-pleasurable or as a turn-off rather than a turn-on.

Really enjoying touch and the bonding power that oxytocin delivers requires the ability to tolerate or embrace intimacy. When touch doesn't feel good, something is off kilter with the relationship. WebMD Explores Falling In Love.

Though science can explain what makes us feel romantic, loved, attached, it can't capture the beauty and power of those feelings. Luckily, poets have long since canonized the power of touch between two lovers.

So the bed, as though consciously, has received its two lovers. And the door is shut. Muse, you must wait outside: They don't need you, now, to prompt their whispered endearments, their hands won't be idle, fingers will learn what to do in those hidden parts where Love's unnoticed darts transfix the flesh...
Believe me, love's acme of pleasure must not be hurried, but drawn insensibly on—and when you've found those places a woman adores to have touched up, don't let any feeling of shame prevent you, go right in.

—Ovid

Source: The Tango Original Article

Lesson in Lingerie

If you could translate my underwear drawer into a pie chart, you’d see one big chunk—some 75 percent—dedicated to basic black bikinis. A small 20 percent would indicate the ratty days-of-the-week skivvies that are verging on seven years old (I know). The remaining sliver would count for the few “sexy” underthings I own—a lacy pink thong, a hot but poorly fitting corset-inspired bra, some sheer boyshorts.

There are certain things I hate to spend money on, and underwear is one of them. In the past, the idea of wearing seductive undergarments had always been appealing, but when I really thought about it, lingerie seemed problematic. First of all, I’d need someone to wear it for, because that ladymag tip of “wearing sexy underwear for yourself” has never done anything for me. Also, was it worth it to drop the money? Assuming I had someone who would appreciate it, wouldn’t it just come off right away, or remain completely covered for most of its time out of the drawer?

So, here’s the truth: Up until a couple days ago, I’d never even so much as gone near a garter belt. I was really into dressing up as a kid, but in my grownup life, I’ve been completely self-conscious of everyday role-playing and mask-wearing, and I’m painfully aware of when I’m doing it. That’s a large part of why I’ve never made a purchase at Victoria’s Secret or La Perla. Another has been body issues. The thought of going to Agent Provocateur to squeeze myself into a demi-cup bra only to stare at my white, slightly muffin-toppy gut in a dressing room mirror is worse to me than spending a day at Disneyland hungover.

A few months ago, things changed when I entered into a serious relationship. The kind of relationship where you start asking yourself, Is this the last person I will have sex with for the rest of my life? (And really, who knows?)
That’s not exactly what prompted our discussion about sexy bedtime attire, but for me it was an underlying factor. Was I comfortable enough with this potential partner to push boundaries in bed—something that feels important for me for the person I’ll marry. But also, my body insecurities felt like they were melting away for the first time. He was completely turned on by my shape and loved me as I was, and the image in the mirror literally began shifting shape for me soon after we got together. All of a sudden, my stomach didn’t seem that huge, my breasts maybe weren’t so droopy, and my hips were proportional with my torso. I could actually look at myself naked in the mirror and not wince.

Things started innocently when one night I wore an example of that mere five percent of my underwear collection—a pink thong with tie-able ribbons at the sides (like unwrapping a present!) and a DKNY black lace bra. It drove him insane. (Just so you know: my normal sexytime attire does not include anything disgusting or ratty, but rather, I’m a basic black kind of girl.) I told him I wished I could wear something hot for him, and we cuddled up to my laptop to gush over online pics at Agent Provocateur and Kiki de Montparnasse. Oooh, he cooed. I’d love to see you in that.

Finding something appropriate took a while. I’m living in France, so there are no Victoria’s Secrets here, and little in between the low-end stuff and the extreme high end. To make matters worse, many French lines don’t carry my size—a 34 D—because French women have the smallest tits in the world. When a lingerie-obsessed friend visited me, she took me to H&M where we both tried on some two dozen get-ups, and nothing fit right, and everything felt cheap. There was no way my fantasy would be hot if I was wearing something completely cheap, I decided.

On a trip back to the States, I decided to stock up, and spent time putting together three outfits to bring back to my man in Paris—a thigh-length black lace bodice I got on sale at Topshop, a vintage-inspired pink lace teddy from Victoria’s Secret, and another black slip-like get-up to pair with a garter belt and stockings.
I didn’t wear anything sexy on the flight over to France—how could I? And ugh, so gross to sit in something for so long. So I wondered how I’d surprise him without him seeing me get into my lingerie. After we got home, there was a good enough excuse: not enough toilet paper in the house. After he left to go pick some up at the store, I frantically stuffed myself into the Topshop black lace body and pulled on the stockings to find that OMG, WTF are these things that attach them?? I fumbled nervously to get it all done in 10 minutes, flinging myself onto the bed, sweating profusely and wondering, Do I look sexy in this position? Maybe I should sit up more ... oh my God, I am so sweaty.

Somehow I collected himself and by the time he got back, I was comfortably styled and ready. With anticipation, I waited for the moment, expecting myself to feel something ... I wasn’t sure what.
Unsurprisingly, he was knocked off his socks.

As for me ... I felt good, yes. Sexy, yes. But I still felt like myself. I had somehow expected to turn into someone else, to step into a movie. But none of that happened. Nevertheless, there was something for me about dressing up that wasn’t exactly sexual. What was wonderful was this: I loved the way my body looked and I loved the overall style I’d created. I was so excited (um, as was he) that I ended up spoiling all my other outfit reserves by modeling them all in one evening.

Needless to say, not one of them stayed on for very long.

By Leonora Epstein  Click here for original article

Wheelbarrow

Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

The latest edition of the weekly sex position is the Wheelbarrow!  Pretty self explanatory how they came up with the name, since you pick up your partner while they are on all fours, and have the one receiving prop themselves up with their hands, looking like a sexy wheelbarrow. There is a lot of lifting and balancing involved, so this may turn into exhausted doggy after too long, which no one has used for a sex position name yet, so patent pending! 

Give it a try! be sure to leave comments as to how this position worked for you and your partner.