Intimacy Advisor

Handjobs: Guys don't always want to play with your vagina.

2010-07-29T15:07:00.004-04:00

Newsflash! Ladies, your man doesn’t always want to hang out with your vagina. Sometimes the most erotic and exciting thing in the bedroom is your hand. No way, this can’t be true, you’re thinking. Aren’t handjobs for sleepaway camp and when I’m on antibiotics? Aren’t they passé like beepers and hotmail accounts? The short answer is NO. But lucky for you, I’m going to give you the long answer. Finally, someone will stand up to the powerful vagina lobbyists in Washington and explain how our nation got hoodwinked into thinking handjobs are lame. My theory is simple and, naturally, revolves around baseball and Benicio Del Toro.Like any red blooded American, I learned the ABC’s of sex through our national pastime—baseball. More specifically the baseball diamond: 1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base and home. Each base represents a sex act, each successive base equals a benchmark of higher achievement or notch on the naughty pole.

The bases allowed for some local interpretation, but not much. For example, currently, Altoona Midway High School in Kansas deems second base to have been successfully met through “boobs being lightly groped over clothing,” while Lynbrook High School in San Jose, CA, requires a misplaced bra and serious mouth-to-nipple action. Still, regardless of these minor cultural or geographical differences, one thing remains constant: The handjob is never a home run. In fact, in some more promiscuous communities it might be recorded as a mere double. Why should that be the case? Why not make intercourse a triple and a well-lubed handjob a home run? I ask you, America: Do we really want to live in a nation where the pleasures of a perfectly administered rub and tug can never earn home run status?

In truth, once we start assigning points and numbers to sex acts we lose sight of what sex is supposed to be, a fluid galaxy of sensation and experience. Can this be taken to the extreme? Of course I’m not suggesting that a kiss on the check and anal sex are equal — one requires mouthwash. But what I am saying is a vagina shouldn’t categorically be crowned King of Sensation. Ever meet an unwashed and dust-dry vagina? Ever been offered a handjob with hot tantric sex oils and your favorite Zeppelin album in the background? Exactly.

There are no absolutes. It’s a matter of style and tastes. And as for styles, the human hand has many. I’m not villainizing the vagina; I’m simply giving props to the hand. How many hands signed the Declaration of Independence? 56. How many vaginas? Zero. What’s more, how many vaginas do you know that could paint the Mona Lisa or even do a decent job spackling? I’m guessing fewer than four.

The handjob is crude, but versatile; there are twists, turns and rotation. There’s tight squeeze and release; there’s dry heat, viscous and wet. And when it comes to speed; don’t tell me the human vagina is winning. The vagina can be turned on and off, while the hand can operate on at least five speeds: slow, “here we go,” fast, “oh man,” and “let’s start a fire.” And sometimes, it’s the caveman simplicity of a handjob itself that is the attraction, so mechanical and rudimentary it can be endearing and downright sweet to look over and see your loved one laboriously plugging away at you.

The vagina is like a high-speed Japanese train. It’s so smooth and efficient you forget where you’re going, but the handjob is bumpy, it takes patience, commitment and a belief in oneself. Which, in turn, makes it all the more sexy and loving. On handjob night (may I suggest Thursdays?), it’s as if your partner will be saying, “You know what, honey, tonight were not gonna bring out the bells and whistles that is my vagina; tonight we’re gonna keep it simple and churn butter the old-fashioned way.”

Which brings me to the Benicio Del Toro portion of my argument. In a nutshell, a vagina is like Benicio Del Toro: complex, mysterious, and erratic; it’s an entity so naturally nuanced and unique it can be confusing, frankly. Alternately, a human hand is like Tom Hanks — no, scratch that, I’ll go further. The human hand is like Chris O’Donnell: straightforward, blatant, and easy to handle. Sometimes the human penis is psyched for the equivalent of a four-hour Spanish biopic starring Benicio as Ché Guevara, but other times, it feels sluggish or moody and wants nothing more than the equivalent of plopping on the couch and catching the tail end of “Kit Kittredge: An American Girl.” Can you blame him?

In closing, please know I’m no vagina hater; intercourse is great and certainly at times can be the cat’s meow. All I’m suggesting is it’s not the only cat in the litter. So let’s do away with the bases and usual suspects, let’s give it up for the hand, roll up our sleeves as a nation, and get crankin’.

The Top 10 Scariest Sex Toys For Men

2010-07-27T09:54:00.000-04:00

(original found at thefrisky.com)

we’ve ventured into truly uncharted sex toy territory by finding the top 10 scariest sex toys made for men. Trust us, you will never forget them.

Oral Satisfier. I thought these things lived at the bottom of the sea. Seriously, they could make an entire horror movie around this. I am agog.

Double Trouble Masturbator. You know, I don’t even know what this is. I mean, I know, but what does it look like? It looks SCARY is what it looks like. If I saw this thing coming at me in a dark alley, I’d run the other way screaming at the top of my lungs. But, hey, maybe that’s just me. Technically speaking, this is supposed to be a woman’s hands smooshing her boobs together, so the guy can—yeah, well, figure it out. Her name is Lacey. It looks like a cyclops.

Big Man Extra Large Penis Pump. All I know is if I had a penis, I would not put it in this thing, even if it does say ENLARGER on the side. I mean, geez. It looks like some sort of phallic death trap. Apparently this is for the big guys with big guns like that guy on “Hung.” If it’s so darn big, why would you want to make it even bigger?

Tenga Eggs. We’ve written about these egg masturbators before, and they’re not too scary to look at—in fact, they’re quite nice to look at—but you have to wonder how you would feel if you came home and your man was making love to an egg. Jealous? Hungry? Who knows. *(just a little note, these are actually pretty awesome, the lube is perfect for the masturbator)

Andy Sex Doll. Created by First Androids, Andy the love doll breathes, has a pulse, and can simulate orgasms. Is this the end of women? Perhaps!

Remote Control Vibrating Thong for Men. How ‘bout that vibrating thong you’re wearing, dude? A must-have for men who require their bells tickled, remotely. Range is twelve feet, so, you know, don’t go far.

Justine Joli’s Foot Stroker. You are now dating porn star Justine Joli’s feet. Congrats on that, buddy. Let us know when you find the rest of her, and we’ll double date.

Two Dildo. I guess this is the sex version of having webbed fingers. I am not sure why this would be required, but TWO each his own. “Developed by two lesbian-identified French women, the Two is perfect for anyone who’s always wanted a little extra reach, or for those with motor limitations.”

Lasso Wang Ring. Look! It’s a bolero for your peen! Perfect for the cowboy who won’t go out without a matching outfit for his little friend.

Realistic Titty Blow. Honestly, I’m speechless. How does this work? It looks like one of those animals that impregnates itself. Only made of silicone. Oh, wait. I just figured out how it works. I don’t think this is physically possible to do if you are a real woman, at least not to this degree, unless you are a contortionist, which I am not.
Posted by: Susannah Breslin Filed in: sex at thefrisky.com

19 Ways to get her to go down!

2010-07-23T08:18:00.001-04:00

Ah, the blow job. It’s idealized and beloved by most men, more so than AC/DC, bacon, or even James friggin’ Bond. But much like rainbows or winning the lottery, it’s hard to predict when or if it’ll happen. Perhaps the only thing more elusive is the woman who loves giving them. If your special lady is having a tough time swallowing this intimate act, here are 19 ways to get her to go down on you.

Jewelry. The real stuff equals the right stuff, so make it as genuine as you want her mouth-lovin’ to be.
Thank her—in your Oscar, Emmy, Grammy, or really any ol’ award acceptance speech.
Take her to the opera or the ballet. Or concert, probably with a male that excites her.
Put a ring on it. You get down on your knees, she will too. And a wedding night sex menu is bound to include a BJ as well.
Find a unicorn, then ride up to her on it.
Nurse her back to health. Chicken noodle soup style.
Charm her parents. Then she’ll charm the pants off of you.
Plan a vacation. Get away and then you can get off.
Take her to pick out something she’d like you to use at the sex toy shop.
Be utterly adorable when you two bump into her ex-boyfriend.
It’s a sad way to get a beej, but if her business is out of commission for more than a week due to a procedure or some other gyno bummer, on the upside, that also means she’s going in for a BJ!
Get her that thing she’s been pining for but wouldn’t splurge on.
The way to a woman’s heart is through her stomach and then the dishwasher afterward. If you cook or clean up a dinner party, she’ll handle dessert.
Introduce her to Lady Gaga.
Send her so many flowers her coworkers can’t find her in her cubicle. Warning: this has the opposite effect if she has allergies.
Forgive her for whatever heinous mistake she made. Make-up sex comes with a blowie.
Fulfill her deepest sexual fantasy. Then she’ll return the favor.
Let her sister, brother, cousin, college roommate, etc., stay with you for more than three days.
Eat her out first. Duh.

Lights Camera, Sex Toys!!!

2010-07-20T09:00:00.001-04:00

The dog days of summer...wishing I was outside, but instead writing about sex toys. Seeing that its time for me to add to the fun of Intimacy Advisor, I decided to apply my super secret tools to gather research about what is going on in the world of sex and sex toys...(hint: google sex toy, hit enter. please dont tell).

Look what is top news! Steven Seagal has a sex toy lawsuit!

does that thing vibrate?

Being a responsible blogger, I decided to read past the headline to get the whole story when I found out it wasn't so much a toy as it was a HUMAN Sex Toy!

A hot human sex toy too! Go Steve! Apparently though, she wasn't too happy about these work demands, and claims Mr. Seagal wanted her "available for sex 24 hours a day." Knowing that the only thing more voracious than Steven's appetite for tasty barbecue is his appetite for round the clock lovin', this was more than Kayden Nguyen bargained for.

he's about to have sex with and eat that panda!

But, like most great stories, this too was just a fairy tale, at least according to the L.A. Court System, who threw the case out on July 13th.

Now if only Steve had a way to curb those sexual urges...say with some toys that couldn't put together a lawsuit on their own...if only he had checked out the selection at Lover's Lane! then all he would have needed was some lube and some time away from his reality TV show to take care of himself! The toy selection is huge and even has a section specifically for washed up action heros- Boy Toys

Have a favorite guy toy? tell us what it is and why in comments below.

Top 25 places to have sex!

2010-07-19T09:40:00.004-04:00

Changing the location of your sex capades can add spice and variety, both of which are important. Here's a list of the top 25 places to try..

1) In the Shower
Get a little dirty while you're getting clean.

2) On the Shore of a Beautiful Secluded Lake
Outdoor lovemaking is exciting in itself; a great view during your tryst is even better.

3) In the Locker Room at the Gym
Find out what else your muscles are capable of.

4) In the Highest Row of a Concert
Make the nosebleed section a bit more fun.

5) In the Dark Corner of a Hookah Lounge
Put those comfortable pillows to good use.

6) While You're Out Test-Driving a New Car
Pull over and enjoy two rides in one day—as long as the salesman is back at the dealership.

7) On the Balcony of Your Hotel Room
Maybe people can see you, maybe not, but that's part of the fun.

8) At a Public Library Between the Stacks of Books
Your chance to live out that naughty-librarian fantasy.

9) In the Parking Lot of Your Local Police Precinct
As Martin Lawrence said in Blue Streak, "Wham, bam, thank you, Officer."

10) High Up in a Tree
Gives tree-hugger a whole new meaning.

11) While Waiting in Line at a Fast-Food Drive Through
Burn enough calories and you can order extra fries.

12) On a Ferris Wheel at Night
Get the most out of the slow climb.

13) On the Teacher's Desk
Take this standard role-play scenario to a new level.

14) While Handcuffed to Your Bed At Home
Handcuffs are a great way for beginners to push their sexual boundaries while still feeling safe.

15) In a Huge Lecture Hall During a Lecture
It's not like you were paying attention anyway

16) In a Cemetery on a Dark, Foggy Night
Somebody needs to liven up the place.

17) In the Stairwell of Your Office Building
The best way to mix business with pleasure.

18) In a Tent on a Camping Trip
Reward him for setting up the tent by making sure he pitches another one later.

19) On a Bearskin Rug by the Fire
Yes, it's a cliche, but there must be a reason it's so popular...

20) At the Lincoln Mmorial
Emancipate your desire.

21) In the Confessional
You can repent immediately after you've finished sinning.

22) In the Loft of a Barn Full of Hay
Take a roll in the hay, literally.

23) At Your Team's Stadium
Even if they lose, you'll feel like a winner.

24) At a Sex Museum
Learn it, then live.

25) Climax, CO
See if the town lives up to its name.

Sexual Bucket List?: 50 Things To Do Before You Die

2010-07-19T09:28:00.001-04:00

What sexual things should everyone experience before they die? And how does someone who married young rank against those who didn't?
I got married at 25 and started dating my husband seriously at 23.
Prior to that, I was in two very serious relationships (both of which ended in engagements) over several years and those three men sum up the grand total of my sexual experience. But what I lack in number of partners, I like to think I make up for in enthusiasm and can-do excitement.
I know I lucked out when I met Rob, so I would trade a few wild and crazy sexual experiences for the really good one of meeting my soul mate at 23 (actually, we met at 10) -- but this idea of "sexual bucket lists" does intrigue me.
Ninety percent of these can be done in the context of a loving, safe marriage (like mine). The rest, alas, I will have to leave to the single gals among us. But here is a list of 50 sexual must-dos before you die.

Kiss a girl
Have anal
Have a threesome
Engage in group sex
Have phone sex
Masturbate
Use a vibrator
Use a sex toy on someone else
Be tied up
Tie someone up
Have sex in a public space
Be a voyeur and watch others having sex (live, porn does not count)
Sex in a car
Sex at a drive-in
Mile-high club
Sex with a stranger
One-night stand
Married sex (the best kind, in my opinion)
Sex on a boat
Sex in a body of water
Light spanking
Read erotica
Play strip poker/Monopoly/card game
Sex in the shower
Sex standing up against a wall
Sex with no kissing
Sex in the pitch black
Sex in the broad daylight
Making out with no sex long after you're no longer a virgin
Sex in a tent in the wilderness
Watch porn together
Watch porn alone
Learn to give yourself multiple orgasms
Sex on the beach
Blindfolds
Using ice sexually
Sexual role play
Whipped cream
La Perla lingerie sex
Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie sex
Sex with someone much older
Sex with someone younger (legal!)
Sex in a foreign country, possibly with a foreigner
A quickie in a skirt
A longie in the rain
Sex in the ocean while people swim all around you
Feather ticklers
Sex while "altered" whether by alcohol or something else
Learn to orgasm in less than five minutes from intercourse alone
Silent sex in a full house

How many have you done? And what's on your bucket list?

Source: Sasha Brown-Worsham http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/106248/the_sexual_bucket_list_50

Sizzling Summer Savings Start Saturday!

2010-07-13T09:38:00.000-04:00

So usually by this time Tuesday, you're at work and already dreaming about your big plans for the weekend, where to go, what to do...well loyal blog followers, change your weekend plans just a bit and make room for Lover's Lane Christmas in July Sale! For this weekend only, July 17th and 18th, Lover's Lane is taking HALF OFF everything they carry! In store, online, this type of savings does not happen everyday. So now you can wish for the week to whip by even faster, so you can add something sexy or something naughty to the bedroom. The 2 things that everyone could use more of come together this weekend! Save some cash AND enhance your sex life! Start by making your own list for this Christmas in July Sale at Lover's Lane, click here!

27 things you should know about sex!

2010-07-12T14:57:00.001-04:00

Lock on the bedroom door? Check. Lustful twinkle in your eye? Check. The must-haves for better sex are pretty simple. The must-knows are right here. Read on for the bedroom wisdom you can't live without.

1. Every woman has a surefire happy-making position — find yours.
By all means, try new things, mix it up, find an alternate use for your baby's exersaucer when she's asleep if it adds to the variety — but figure out your no-fail move or position so you know you can always have an orgasm when you need one.

2. That position may change.
Maybe in your misspent youth you were all about acrobatics and funky props, but now you strive for a deep connection with your guy. (Or maybe it's the other way around!) What you crave, both physically and emotionally, can shift over time, says Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale School of Medicine. Pay attention to what you're feeling (or not feeling) and adapt to your new normal.

3. He doesn't have a flaw-o-meter.
That would be you scanning your body for an errant pudge or a dimple in the wrong place. "During sexual arousal, men are experiencing such a neurochemical cocktail rush, they're really just caught up in the intoxication of it all," says REDBOOK Love Network expert and sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. In other words, he's too overwhelmed with joy to notice your "flaws." Put aside your body angst and you'll soon be having as much fun as he is.

4. Sex in a soft, clean, comfy bed is underrated.
You're supposed to want to do it on the kitchen floor, in the airplane bathroom, and hanging from your light fixtures. Bah! There's no shame in enjoying your good sheets.

5. Sex clichés are clichés for a reason: They work.
Get a hotel room. Have date night. Take a bubble bath. For God's sake, buy some scented candles already!

6. Everyone else is not having more (or better) sex than you are.
There is no "normal" amount we should all aspire to, no magic number of times per month that signifies your relationship is hunky-dory. There's only one question you need to answer: Are you having enough sex for you?

7. Asking for what you want is worth the embarrassment.
What's a brief awkward moment of sounding like one of those women at the end of a 900 number compared to, well, getting what you need?

8. You need transition time into sex.
Look at all the people who want a piece of you — your kid, your client, the guy who's supposed to be renovating your kitchen. So don't expect to make the leap from corporate exec or general contractor or mommy-on-the-spot to sex goddess without a little time to reassemble yourself. When you're done with the dinner dishes, take a shower — alone! — or read a book. Better yet, get your guy to do the dishes. After that, you might want to give him some action, after all.

9. The more sex you have, the more you want.
It's simple: Delicious recent memo ries make you want to reenact the fun. But the reverse is also often true — if you go too long without, you forget how much you like it.

10. Masturbating isn't just for dry spells.
First of all, it's plain fun, and second, when was the last time you disappointed yourself? Not to mention the fact that more frequent orgasms will keep you craving partner play, too (see above).

11. Worrying about your orgasm is the best way to chase it away.
When your mind is roiling, It's not happening ... concentrate ... he'll think he failed ... what's wrong with me? you're thinking, not feeling. Focus on the lovely physical sensations instead and soon you won't be able to think straight — in a good way.

12. Planned sex can be even better than spontaneous sex.
Anticipation as foreplay. Think about it.

13. Yes, you can give him a hand.
Touching yourself to speed up your happy ending is not only allowed, it's appreciated, especially when your guy has had his neck in an awkward position for the better part of an hour.

14. He doesn't need you to know any fancy techniques.
"There are many paths to male orgasm," says Kerner. As long as you pay attention to his reactions, refrain from inflicting pain (unless invited to) and don't do anything involving teeth (again, unless he asks), you won't hear any complaints.

15. Sometimes what your body lusts for most is sleep.
An "off" night or a dry spell doesn't mean your relationship is tanking. It usually means you have children or a demanding job or you need to be alone in your head. Go ahead, take the night off.

16. But sometimes "Just do it" really does work.
If you wait to be struck with a spontaneous urge to tear his clothes off, you may be waiting a very long time. But if you simply decide to give it a go, your body (and your desire) will often catch up.

17. Kegels are key.
These exercises strengthen your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, a.k.a. your pelvic floor muscles, giving you more control during sex and intensifying orgasm, says Minkin. To do them, squeeze as if you're holding back urine, then release.

18. Your birth control method is not till death do us part.
You need to reevaluate your pregnancy-prevention method at least twice in your adult life, says Minkin: when you go from wild woman to a mutually monogamous relationship, and after you have children. Not only does your body change post-baby, but your habits may change, too (making you a less reliable Pill taker, for example).

19. Doggie-style can be fun — really!
It can make you feel a bit raunchy — and that's a good thing. It just suffers from bad PR. Let's change the name — like how the marketing people changed prunes to "dried plums." Hands-free sex? Getting the backstory? Taking the bull by the horns? Heck, call it Loretta, but try it.

20. Pain during intercourse is not normal.
Occasional discomfort may just mean that you're tense or haven't had enough foreplay, but if sex hurts often, see your doctor. "It could be as simple as a low-grade urinary tract infection," says Minkin. Whatever it is, you don't have to suffer.

21. The way your vagina looks, however, is perfectly normal.
And no, we don't have to see it to know that.

22. Props are your friends.
Vibrators, fun feathers, unusually shaped pillows — you name it, someone has probably patented it. At the very least, these tools will make you laugh, which can be its own turn-on.

23. Sex is how he shows love.
It's an age-old problem: We gals need to feel cozy and loving to want to have sex, and guys need to have sex to access those cozy and loving feelings. "A lot of guys don't have many outlets for communication, and for them sex is a powerful form of emotional expression," says Kerner. Remember that the next time he wants to have make-up sex before you've really made up — to him, sex is a peace offering and a gift of love, all in one.

24. No matter how badly you want to cuddle and fall asleep, you gotta get up and pee after sex.
Why? So you don't get a urinary tract infection.

25. He'll be snoring by the time you return from the bathroom.
The buildup to his ejaculation involves a lot of muscular tension, explains Kerner. When the wave has subsided, he relaxes and sleep-inducing hormones are released. In short, he can't help it.

26. It's okay to simply take.
Consider how you feel when you perform a one-way act on your guy — you get a certain pleasure out of that, right? Don't deny him the same joy.

27. Sex gets better with age.
(Or practice, or time with one partner, or all of the above.) The future is looking bright!

Source: Redbook. Article written by Stephanie Dolgoff

Luscious Lovers Like Lots o Lunges

2010-07-08T14:46:00.001-04:00

Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

Who needs to go to the gym for a great workout? Well if youre like most Americans, you are totally skipping the workouts and instead reaching for the 5 dollar box, and why? cus it rocks!

hips dont lie

But, if you feel like getting a little exercise in your life, put down that burrito, grab a partner, quit loungin' and start LUNGING!!!!

not to be confused with luging

now that you are halfway thru this post, you will have to scroll back up to the top to see the image of exactly how to lunge, but do it, its worth it, plus learning is fun.

this sex position is a variation on asian cowgirl but this time you extend one foot out in front while on top ladies. the site claims that this is not hard for young and nimble, but Im guessing you could work it like this past your 40s!!! get in shape!

of course, these awesome positions wouldnt be as sweet without a review, so here goes- foreverandalways says the position is "super sexy but the girl should probably stretch out first ha...o and take care not to knee your boy in the balls!" so please be careful while lunging!

leave your own comment below after trying for yourself!

Plan a Stay-cation

2010-07-07T08:32:00.001-04:00

In springtime, love is carried on the breeze. Watch out for flying passion or kisses whizzing by your head. ~Terri Guillemets

Summer Lovin’: Our Guide to the Perfect Staycation!

Summer is here and although some of you are heading out of town for a little sight-seeing or a relaxing vacation, many more people are postponing their travel plans and opting for a stay-at-home vacation called a Staycation. Don’t let financial troubles or high gas prices ruin your summer! You can have plenty of fun at home and with our Sexy Summer Staycation Ideas, you are sure to enjoy some summer lovin’!

First and foremost, plan your Staycation in advance! To truly create the feel of a vacation, you must follow a few simple rules:

1. Set a start date and an end date to make it “official.”
2. Request the time off from work as you would with any vacation.
3. Send the kids to visit the grandparents or hire a babysitter for blocks of time (still much less expensive than going out of town).
4. Avoid your regular routine. Save the emailing, bill paying, going to the dentist, etc. for next week.
5. Try one or more of our suggestions for a Sexy Summer Staycation!

Sexy Summer Staycation Ideas:

1. Turn your home in to a spa! Forget about planning an expensive spa vacation. You and your partner will enjoy rubbing each other the right way with sensual spa products that are fun to use at home. Whether you want to relax tired muscles or stimulate erogenous zones, massage is a great way to connect with your partner. When we talk about stimulating erogenous zones, most people immediately think about breasts and genitals. However, there are many other areas of the body that when stimulated, heighten sexual arousal (e.g., ears, neck, lips, back, buttocks and feet). Each person is different, so experiment with your partner. Pamper each other with the warm oil of a massage candle or use aromatic sensual massage oil formulated with pheromones to enhance sex appeal. If you are new to massage, play the Touch Me Erotic Massage Game, where you rub, touch, relax and excite your partner (2 players).

2. Throw a party! Invite some friends over for a casual get together with fun finger foods and sexy cocktails. Offer your guests a Red Hot Lover (combine 2 oz. vodka, 2 oz. peach schnapps, a dash of grenadine and 2.5 oz. each of strawberry and orange juice in a cocktail shaker; shake well for a few seconds, and pour into an ice-filled hurricane glass) or see if anyone is interested in a Ménage a Trois (fill shaker halfway with ice cubes, combine 1 oz. each of Dark Rum, Triple Sec and Light Cream, shake well, and strain into a cocktail glass). Break into teams for a Sexy Scavenger Hunt or play Encounters, a game that sexually challenges couples to find out who is the hottest, the horniest or the kinkiest (can be played by one or more couples).

3. Have a Midsummer Night’s Scream with a new toy. Sometimes people enjoy trying something new on vacation like sky diving, surfing, etc. Well, your Staycation should be no different! If you have never located and stimulated your G-Spot, now is your chance. Whether alone or with a partner, this is an adventure you won’t want to miss this summer. Your G-Spot is located about three inches inside your vagina (on the belly button side). Many women find that when they stimulate this area, they have greater arousal or more intense orgasms. For women who seek greater arousal, the Butterfly Kiss, which also has a fluttering clitoral stimulator, provides great G-Spot stimulation. For others, using a hard G toy, like the Dream Massager or iTap G, is a great for direct stimulation resulting in an orgasm.

4. Enjoy some natural wonders! There is an innate sensuality in the great outdoors. Sunlight warms your body, bringing more blood to your skin to intensify your sensual experience. Emotionally and spiritually, there’s a strong feeling of being connected to all of nature. It’s only natural to want to share this connection with your partner through sexual intimacy. The sky is literally the limit when it comes to where you can make love outdoors, but you should make sure to be prepared:

a. Have a blanket or ground cover to shelter you from sticks, stones, sand, bugs and any other annoyances.

b. Don’t forget condoms, if that is your preferred method of birth control (and disease prevention).

c. Pick up your trash (condoms, wrappers, tissues or wipes) should not be left at the scene.

d. If enjoying sex in water, make sure to use a good lubricant that won’t wash away (this is why we love our silicone lubes!).

e. Use good judgment if you plan to go beyond the ambiance of your own backyard and make love in a public place like a beach or a park. You don’t want to get in trouble with local law enforcement or offend other people who are enjoying the scenery.

5. Single Stacationers: Have a Sex Toy Party! Treat yourself, your friends and family to invaluable information, a wide assortment of goodies and a great time! Learn useful tips and techniques to enhance intimacy as you touch, taste and smell the best lotions, lubes and pheromone products. Start a summer romance with a new B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend). He never argues or leaves his dirty socks on the bathroom floor and he will make sure to satisfy you every time! You will also earn a sexy shopping spree (most party companies offer free goodies or discounted items to the party hostess based on the sales of the party!).

Have a wonderful summer!

Source: Ryan and Dr. Jessica Cassaday-Cal Exotics Newletter and Google Images

Intersextion, Where 2 Bodies Collide!

2010-07-01T09:00:00.000-04:00

Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

Ok, so far, sexinfo101 has provided sex positions that were not only do-able, but also gave assurance that the position was going to be comfortable to do. This, however is not as true with the Intersextion. In this position, the guy is between the woman's legs, literally laying on one of them. the woman meanwhile looks like she should be reading a book, or watching TV while her guy goes to town, she kind of looks bored with this position. though it allows for an "unusual angle for penetration, but it comes at the partial expense of comfort." So if you end up lasting for a while, one of the side effects of this position may be a numb leg for the woman, but chances are she will want you to get off of her before then. Definitely mixed results in the comments as well, but hardcorefreak had this to say about the Intersextion position- "this and wheelbarrow is my fave exotic positions! FUCKIN FEELS SOO GOOD! UGh! can get enuff". What more needs to be said.

20 Things Men (Maybe) Don't Know About Women

2010-06-30T11:07:00.000-04:00

1. “Just because we aren’t saying it out loud doesn’t mean we aren’t picturing your hot brother naked, fantasizing about the ‘under the radar’ cute boy on the subway or masturbating twice a day too!” — Melissa, 30
2. “It’s fun to play the damsel in distress sometimes. I love how proud you get when you squash a spider or open that impossible jar.” — Jenna, 21
3. “I love big hands on men. I love the dimples on the small of their backs. If I am in love with them, I think they are the sexiest thing I have ever seen. I love it when they are manly and when they cry. A man who can make good eggs will make me fall in love with him.” — Ashley, 30
4. “Sometimes, when we have sex with you, we’re only doing it to keep the peace.” — Becca, 27
5. “If we demand to pay for our half, chances are, we aren’t thinking of you on a romantic level.” — Melissa, 30
6. “I may tell you that I hate porn and don’t want you watching it, but if you’re not around, I will indulge in some myself.” — Stephanie, age 26
7. “When asked if we are okay and we say, “I’m fine,” we’re lying! Truth is we are not fine but we rather keep peace or want the guy to just automatically sense something is wrong. Yes, we except men to be mind readers” — Crystal, 27
8. “Get rough. Pull my hair, smack my ass, sink in your teeth, growl at me…I’m in charge of my life for the other 23 hours of the day…you take control for a while.” — Lynn, 29
9. “One of the most fun parts about being a woman is that we get to wear cute shoes!” — Kim, 26
10. “No, your penis isn’t big. It’s average-sized, and I think it’s perfect!” — Nicole, 25
11. “Ask me questions…about my job, my day, my favorite vacation, my family, my beliefs. It tells me that you’re interested and invested and makes me feel super secure in your feelings for me.” — Lynn, 29
12. “I get (really) horny too!! Just because I don’t think about it night and day doesn’t mean I don’t think about it at all.” — Jenna, 21
13. “We girls are strong. We can handle anything our “crazy” friends and families throw at us, we can give birth and handle 3 days worth of cramps… every. single. month. But every once in a wile, we like to be taken care of. So please guys, lift the heavy stuff for us, ok?” — Trish, 26
14. “Not all women get PMS. I’m the exact same before my period, on it and after it.” — Sara, 28
15. “If you’re only looking for “action”, don’t ask us for a relationship. Be upfront - if we say no, it would have ended unhappily anyway and you’d be better off finding someone who is looking for the same thing you are.”— Danica
16. “Girls love the little gestures just as much as the big ones. If not more.” — Ashley, 23
17. “Women nickname all their guys! Every single guy I’ve dated (and there’s been lots) has a nickname: Quickie Burger, Ice Cream Guy, Shorty, Beefy Italian, Abs Guy, Latin Lover, Mr. King, Leafs Guy, Jack Rabbit, The Candidate. It’s just a way to talk to your girlfriends so they can keep everyone straight.” — Sara, 28
18. “We know if seems unfair that we use femininity to get stuff guys can’t, but there’s a lot of things that are unfair in your favor. Give us this one.” — Sonia, 27
19. “I’m a woman and I love sports — I have since I was a kid. I have NEVER pretended to like sports to get a guy to like me. I can sit with my best female friends and talk celebrity gossip, fashion, and relationships (thank you, The Frisky!), and I can turn around and talk NHL, NFL, and MLB records, standings, and stats with my guy friends, and I’m proud of it!” — Alexis, 27
20. “We hate when you dismiss our opinions and emotions with a comment about how we’re “on our periods”. It’s possibly one of the most obnoxious things you could do, and will instantly make a woman feel like you don’t respect her.” — Jen, 18

Source: Wendy Atterberry http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-20-things-men-dont-know-about-women/

20 iPhone Apps to Make You a Better Lover

2010-06-29T09:00:00.001-04:00

No, the title of this post is not a joke – with the number of apps that are being written especially for the iPhone, why is it so surprising that there are a few that are meant for those who yearn to get on the right side of their beloved or the one they’re trying to impress. After all, haven’t you heard that love makes the world go round? So if you want to become a better lover, here goes – a list of apps (in no particular order of importance) that will help you on your way:
Finders keepers…
1. Girlfriend Keeper: If you’re bad with dates and remembering anniversaries, this is just the app for you. It sends out romantic texts based on levels of affection – it’s like cruise control for text messages.
2. Skout Flirting: Another nifty mobile dating app that allows you to hook up with eligible singles who match your preferences.
3. Cellphone Tracker: This app allows you to find your lover’s location using their cellphone number, so it’s a great tool if you’re looking to catch them out on a lie or just catch up with them.
Tools of the trade…
4. Phospho: Before you dismiss this as just another flashlight app, try using it when you’ve dropped your condom in the dark and fumbling for it and enjoy your lover’s gratitude.
5. Textfree Unlimited: Use this app to drive your lover crazy with sweet, romantic and saucy messages all through the day – it’s all free, so go ahead and text away!
6. Brascanner: Wow your lover with this app by scanning her fingerprint and predicting what bra color she’s wearing – you can get her to prove later that you’re right, or wrong. It’s a win-win situation either way!
7. Skype: Use Skype for your iPhone to call or IM your lover, anytime you want to and free of cost.
Sex it up…
8. Sex Drive Up: This app claims to boost your sex drive if you listen to the binaural voiceover for just 15 minutes – try it out to become a better lover.
9. Vibrate Massager: It’s designed to be used on your neck to relieve aching muscles, but hey, who knows? It could be put to better use elsewhere too if you’re adventurous enough!
10. Sexulator: Use this app to keep complete track of your sex life; add when, where, how and with who into a password protected app that is displayed innocuously on your screen as Cal.
11. Sex Positions Decision Maker: If you’re running out of new positions and still feeling adventurous, try out this free app for additional insight and information on how to maximize your performance as a lover.
12. Passion: Download this app if you want to prove how good a lover you are – when you strap your iPhone to your wrist or place it on the bed before you start to have sex, it appraises your sexual performance based on movement and the intensity of orgasm, and rates you on a scale of 10. Warning: Any damage to your iPhone is at your own risk.
13. Bedometer: You can not only count the number of calories you expend when having sex with this app, you can also post your score on Facebook for all your friends to see! How’s that for spicing up your sex life and boosting your image as a lover!
14. Spice Dice: This app is from Durex, your friendly condom maker; it promises to spice up your sex life with tips on positions and other sexual tidbits when you shake the dice.
15. How Much do You Know About Sex: The perfect quiz to take with your lover – find out how much you both know about sex and how you can discover the rest together.
Look who’s talking…
16. Mirror in Your Pocket: Need to know how you look before that hot date and there’s no mirror in sight? This app lets you use your iPhone as a mirror, and voila, you’re all set to go.
17. Track your Weight: Let’s face it – fat is not fit, and if you’re not fit, you don’t fit into the image of a lover boy. So use this app to keep track of your weight and stay on your diet and fitness track.
18. Gymgoal Life: If your weight is getting out of hand or if you want to revamp your fitness routine, use this app to gain access to a variety of exercises and the best and safest ways to do them.
19. GoodFoodNearYou: If you’re looking for a bite to eat either before you head back to her place or when you’re done and ready to leave for a night out, use this app to help you find a restaurant that offers healthy food.
20. Diet2Go: Gain access to the largest collection of diets and latest news concerning weight loss information and healthy eating with this app – your lover is sure to be impressed with both your attitude and your fit and healthy body.
This guest post is contributed by Anna Miller, who writes on the topic of online degrees. She welcomes your comments at her email id: anna.miller009@gmail.com. original post can be found on iphonedownloadblog.com

What are Pheromones?

2010-06-25T08:17:00.001-04:00

What Are Pheromones?

The power of smell is undeniable, as the multi-billion dollar perfume industry testifies. But, is it possible that humans are influenced by airborne chemicals undetectable as odors, called pheromones? It appears so. Pheromones are natural chemical scents the body produces in order to attract others. Scientific studies have actually shown that people who used synthesized pheromones had sex more often. Researchers at the University of Chicago said, “The power of scent is undeniable, humans are influenced by airborne chemicals undetectable as odors, called pheromones.” Their research found the first proof that humans produce and react to pheromones. Perhaps pheromone products also tend to give guys a boost of confidence they need to ask women out and vice versa.

Pheromones are defined as chemicals released by an individual that act on another individual of the same species, as opposed to hormones which act on the same individual. Pheromones are odorless molecules found in many animals, including humans, that trigger primal urges connected with sex, defence and kinship.

The pheromone sensors are called Vomeronasal Organs (VNOs) and they are located inside the nose, just as are the organs that pick up olfactory signals (smells). Pheromone information from the VNO is carried straight to the hypothalamus, the older part of the human brain, and we are not aware of its presence. We cannot “smell” pheromones in the same way as we might smell roses or car exhaust fumes.
Until recently the VNOs were thought to be vestigial organs that we humans no longer use, but as you may have noticed, some perfume manufacturers are adding pheromones to their products, and trying to convince us that the use of scents with added pheromones will make us more attractive sexually. Scientists disagree about whether humans still use pheromones as a method of inter-personal communication: current research seems to indicate that we do, although the effects occur below our conscious awareness. Any effects that do exist are considerably less obvious in human beings than in other animals.

George Preti, a researcher at the Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia says that pheromones are airborne chemical signals that influence mating, dominance, family ties, and maturation. In humans, pheromones seem to convey information about identity, kinship, age, health, happiness, fertility and arousal.

How Does Smell Work Anyway?

The sense of smell belongs to the chemical sensing system of our brain. This complicated process of begins when tiny molecules released by the substances around us stimulate special cells in the nose, mouth, or throat. These special sensory cells transmit messages through nerves to the brain where specific smells are identified. Smell nerve cells, or ol’ factory nerve cells are stimulated by the odors around us. The smell of bread baking, a field of flowers or your wet dog are all processed by the brain. These nerve cells are found in a small patch of tissue high inside the nose. The olfactory sense is interpreted by the part of the brain that is connected to our emotions. Scents have a powerful effect on our moods.

What Are Pheromones Really?

Pheromones are naturally occurring chemicals that send out signals to the opposite sex (or the same sex) that trigger power sexual response.

The word pheromones is taken from the Greek words pherein, meaning “to transfer,” and hormon, meaning “to excite”. Pheromones are odorless, airborne chemical signals that are released by an individual into the environment. These chemicals affect the physiology or behavior of other members of the same species. Although pheromones have been shown to exist in virtually all species of insects and mammals, they also control the behavior of humans, acting as sexual attractants. The secretion of pheromones by humans is believed to dramatically increase both desirability and sexual attractiveness in both men and women.

Researchers at the University of Chicago say they have the first proof that humans produce and react to pheromones. In findings published in the journal Nature, they claim they found that female ovulation can be regulated -- made longer or shorter -- through the use of pheromones. Maybe something to try if you're looking for that someone special. “The pheromones regulate the time of ovulation. There are two pheromones -- one that makes ovulation more likely and the other that suppresses it and makes it less likely,” said Martha McClintock of the University of Chicago. So, if you find yourself feeling attracted to someone, but you don't know why. It may indeed be due to their scent. Or, if you see someone you are attracted to, but when you meet them, the attraction is gone, again, it might be pheromones at work again. You can search the Internet and find tons of pheromone products for sale. Lover’s Lane has these new pheromones from System Jo! When you put them on right after getting out of the shower they stimulate your natural scent.

Many people use aromatherapy for relaxation or invigoration and pheromones too. I do and it works for me. The System Jo one is my new favorite, I use it everyday. It definitely attracts attention in the bar so I have no complaints… Instant Sexy is pretty good too. But check it out…it’s definitely something cool and new to try then standard perfume.

Become an Amazon Woman!

2010-06-24T09:00:00.001-04:00

Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.

There may be something wrong with me, I really like to watch these animated people hump away in different positions. I get hypnotized in the back and forth motions, and am impressed that the guy can last forever, and the girl never cramps up! If you haven't noticed by now, its time for another sex position of the week! Ever since I found the site sexinfo101, I cant wait to share these awesome positions with everyone.

This one is called the Reverse Amazon, considered one of the "tougher" woman on top positions, but come on! everything in life shouldnt be super easy right? Plus, ladies get a sense of power and control that is lost in most other positions...

missing from this position: power, control.

personally I think the guy would be having some trouble if their lady friend has balance issues! This is supposed to be no problem though, since she will be resting on the legs of the guy underneath her. So all bases covered! to top it all off, the reviews on this site really make the positions that much more awesome. Capone99 claims that this position is absolute "HEAVEN" and that he "usually come in bucket loads after she rides me like that, for sure!" Try it for yourself and see what you think! don't forget to leave comments below!

Foreplay - Don't Forget It!

2010-06-23T08:54:00.001-04:00

Men are often very selfish. Sometimes males are unable to look past themselves and think of others. Their egos often cloud their judgment, leaving everyone else in the dust. In the case of intercourse, a male will often climax and immediately roll over to fall asleep. Unfortunately for the female, this is a common occurrence and without the proper education, men will continue to get off and get out. Men tend to look at the small picture and focus on instant gratification. The key to happiness in a long-term or short-term relationship is to pre-heat the oven; never forget foreplay.

Few women, unlike most men, are able to come to an immediate climax. The term pre-heating the oven is used to relate to cooking. Perhaps this analogy isn't the best considering the majority of men, including myself, aren't very good at it. Nonetheless, it gets the point across. Before throwing the frozen pizza in the oven, the directions say something very important, Pre-heat oven at 350 degrees. Since men are really good at following directions, one would turn the knob to 350 and wait a few minutes. This allows the oven to get to a good temperature to allow the pizza to cook evenly, and perhaps prevent it from burning. Now, the glory of a woman's vagina is hardly comparable to an oven. However, we shall not hastily throw our pizza in because it is likely to get burned.

The female body has directions too. To prepare a woman for intercourse typically requires about thirty minutes of foreplay. This will allow a female ' s vagina to be ready to receive you and perhaps enjoy a climax or two but don't worry, as she will not be over cooked. Slowly embrace her and feel her entire body. She will get pleasure simply from your contact and the anticipation of accepting you into her body. Don't act like you are in a hurry. Take your time. Hug, kiss and play with her ears, neck and nipples as you slowly work down toward that magic spot. At this point in time it is not necessary to penetrate her, instead use your fingers, lips and tongue as you continue to pleasure her. During this time, do not stop caressing the rest of her body. After a few minutes retreat your hand and avoid her genital area all together. She will go wild from anticipation, causing her to get more and more wet for you. As you since her eagerness from what may have seemed like an eternity, slowly begin to have intercourse but don ' t rush into heavy thrusting. If you have rushed, it is possible the dryness of her vagina can prevent you, and more importantly, her from having a good time. Even with adequate foreplay some women produce very little lubricant so don't take this as a sign of failure, just introduce a bit of water based lubricant. Always treat your lover like a queen, and she will do wonders for you and your royal wand.

When it comes down to it, men enjoy foreplay too. For most men, little is more satisfying than a woman enjoying giving pleasure to him through an act of fellatio. Women need only to look at the man while moaning, and he will love you forever. Also, there are men who love to pleasure a woman through cunnilingus. A nice sixty-nine formation is a surefire way to get the motor running. Foreplay can allow him to get off once before or after enjoying a nice long round of intercourse. Many younger men and some older men can ejaculate multiple times if he is constantly aroused. That's right gals; a man can have multiple orgasms. Don't allow him to roll over and fall asleep on you.

Foreplay is essential to any sexual activity. Taking her to a movie and buying dinner is not foreplay, so don't even think about counting that. If you want to enjoy the wonders of her body, let her enjoy it too. Pre-heat the oven for about 30-40 minutes; don't forget it.

Source: Terrance Lile http://www.e-healtharticles.com/Detailed/2749.html

Discretion is Advised

2010-06-22T09:00:00.001-04:00

Since sex is usually quite a taboo subject on its own, its not too often that you will find random sex toys laying around the house when you drop by to visit friends or family members. Though there is a large percentage of people actually engaging in self loving, most people don't want to show off exactly what they are using when they are looking to get off.

Come on in!!! I was just about to make lunch...

Some sex toy makers have realized that there is a market to not only manufacture toys that will satisfy you sexually, but is also easy on the eyes (a.k.a. looks less like a penis). So if you would rather have discreet, for that rare chance your sex toy makes it out to the front porch, or you leave it in the back seat of your car, people will at least have to wonder if its some type of fancy garage door opener...

The looks can be deceiving! It's actually a vibrator from the Lelo company called the Nea, and you can pick one up here.

Of course this is just one example of new styles of vibes that are out there, there are plenty of other types you can check out that Lover's Lane carries. In fact, there is even one shaped like lipstick! So never worry about your toys being found again!

If it buzzes, it's not makeup.

Orgasm Benefits- An Orgasm is Good for You!

2010-06-21T07:45:00.002-04:00

According to JAMA (the Journal of the American Medical Association), 43% of American women suffer from some form of 'Female Sexual Dysfunction -- often placing the blame on themselves for their inability to reach orgasm. Stop blaming yourself. If you are alone, masturbation will help you find what feels right for you. If you have a partner, talk to them. Often the clitoris is under stimulated during sexual intercourse - which is how many women have an orgasm. If you have orgasms from your cervix being stimulated, tell your partner this. (Or, whatever else does it for you).

Orgasms: Relieve tension! The faster heart beat, the increased blood flow and muscular tautness associated with sexual pleasure all come to a relaxing conclusion with an orgasm, and in the process relieve tensions pent up in your nervous system.

Orgasms: Help you sleep better. While an orgasm is followed in the male by a quick drop in blood pressure and sudden relaxation, the effect on women is more progressive but no less important. Orgasms act as a natural tranquilizer. That wonderful release of endorphins is very calming.

Orgasms: Calm your cravings for junk food and sometimes for cigarettes. Sexual stimulation activates the production of phenetylamine, a kind of natural amphetamine that regulates your appetite. So, before you pig-out, maybe go to your room. :)

Orgasms: Burn calories.

Orgasms: Can work as natural pain management. If you ever noticed forgetting about a headache or menstrual cramps while masturbating or having sex, it is not simply a psychological phenomenon. Endorphins, (natural compounds close to morphine) are released by your body during sex and can increase your tolerance to pain by as much as 70% during orgasm. This will vary from person to person. AND, if you are in the hospital... forget trying this due to the lack of privacy.

Source: by: Amy Otis, BSN, RN http://www.e-healtharticles.com/Detailed/352.html

A Sex Position Don't!

2010-06-18T09:00:00.001-04:00

So my other co-worker that write for this blog is rather witty. He gives you good sex positions to try and other classic humor to pass the time. But when I read his post yesterday about the "socket" position....It made me want to go home and try it. Don't tell him that though. When I try it out, I'll make sure that I do a follow-up post and share my results with you. But in the mean time, let's take a step back and talk about a position that you shouldn't try.

"When she raises both of her legs, and places them on her lover's shoulders, it is called the 'yawning position.'" - Vatsyayana

The Yawning Position offers the deepest penetration possible in traditional intercourse, essentially turning your penis into one of those armor piercing bullets from Lethal Weapon 3.

woah he's in there...really in there...

Why it's Dangerous:
Believe it or not, the Kama Sutra was written for men with even smaller penises than what women have to settle for today. Back then, a good size dong was about four-inches, whereas today, the average guy maxes out at about six and a half. The average vaginal depth is around five-inches, give or take, so you can do the math. Being positioned for the deepest possible penetration isn't doing men or women any favors unless he's attempting to drill her uterus for oil.
The most common injury is tearing the vaginal wall, but if the guy goes in too far he could end up knocking so hard on the girl's cervix that it ruptures. Basically, if you don't stay in constant communication with each other while attempting this position, you're basically flying blind while performing very delicate surgery with a mallet.

So be cautious...and happy humping :)

Socket to Me!

2010-06-17T09:00:00.001-04:00

Courtesy of SexInfo101.com

Since I contribute to this blog at work only, it is much easier for me to look for cool stuff to write about online than browse through books to find awesome sexy stuff. so today, I happened to find this nifty site that has animated sex positions, with hot looking sims people! I was nervous at first to click thru to the site, but Im glad I did, there are over 100 sex positions that play out before your very eyes at www.sexinfo101.com. plus, they have bunch of cool stuff going on. So on to the position...

They call this one the Socket, and "Any difficulty in plugging-in will be more than compensated by the buzz and tingle as the friction sets you both alight..."

Not to be confused with the scissor, the socket places the top leg in front of the givers chest, rather than behind. In english, the guy lays on his side, while the woman lays on her back. Of course this is hetero, but Im sure it can be done with any combination, guy/girl, guy/guy, girl/girl...use your imagination.

Ms. Garrison and Xerxes, still love scissoring

According to the writeup, this position "has the advantage of not trapping the receiver's lower leg and so is more comfortable. However, care should be taken to not ever-extend the penis which is pointed at an unusual (downward) angle." over-extending the penis is never a good thing, but the reviews are incredible for this position. In fact, sexbunnyx commented that she and her boyfriend did it for 2 hours! and the "orgamsims" never felt so good! If it makes you forget how to spell, it has to be doing something right! have fun!

(ms. garrison from comedycentral.com)

Is it time for a new toy?

2010-06-15T09:00:00.005-04:00

Around a month ago, scientists found a stone object that they immediately decided was used as a sex toy, based on its shape. They also said that this "toy" was used to start fires as well, so basically science sometimes makes educated guesses, and other times, I think they just revert back to thinking everything is/was/could have been a sex toy.

dong potato from the early farming era

So the question at hand is, how long is too long to keep some of those ancient toys that you have hidden around your bedroom like penis shaped easter eggs. With some care, most toys that are made of quality products will last a while, with internal problems like the motor being the reason it goes to the dumpster (please recycle your toys! here is just one of a handful of places that will be happy to help)

so many toys...

proper care and cleaning of your toys will also make them last quite a bit longer, but sometimes thats easier said than done, especially after coming home from the bar, alone, horny, and hoping you have fresh batteries to get your buzz on before you pass out.

lonely tears will cause corrosion

Now could also be the perfect time to realize that you might want to add to your arsenal with some of Lover's Lane finest selection of sex toys! There are plenty of different styles, in plenty of different price ranges that are perfect for everyone. Take a look and have fun in the bedroom!

variety, the spice of life!

(penis potato from yesterdaytodayphoto.com, 1000 toys from flickr.com/photos/krazydad, batteries from language.iastate.edu, dildo rack from jahjahsphinx.blogspot.com)

The Joy of Vibrating Toys!

2010-06-14T11:10:00.000-04:00

I own every single remote control clitoral stimulator I can get my hands on. It's not because I'm a nympho. It's not because I'm fascinated by remote-control technology. It's not even because testing them is part of my job.

It's because the boyfriend and I have found that nothing leads to a more impassioned night of lovemaking than playing with our remote-controlled adult toys while we have dinner at a nice restaurant.

Here's how a typical night goes: My boyfriend says, "Let's go out to dinner." I reply, "Sure!" He asks, "Do you want to take one of your toys with you?" I smile and go to our bedside box to select that evening's treat.

I usually puzzle over my favorite three: the remote-control turn me on vibrating panty, remote control butterfly, or 7 function egg. The remote controlled panties are great because it fits underneath my clothes almost as well as my regular underwear, making for a seamless experience. I also like the remote-control egg, which I insert directly into my vagina for some powerfully erotic G-spot vibrations. But on most nights, I'll pick the remote-control butterfly, because I find it incredibly comfortable and extremely exciting. A plastic, purple butterfly that clings to my most erogenous zone, the toy also features a vibrating bullet centered over my clitoris. I can't imagine greater bliss!

After I select my toy for the night, I'll slip into a nice outfit, touch up my lipstick and do something special with my hair. On our way out the door, I'll hand the remote to my boyfriend, who smiles as he slips it into his pocket.

On the way to dinner, we test the remote to ensure the batteries are working. We test the toy at every stoplight, to be exact. For me, I get a thrill at knowing that every red light means a fun tingling sensation. For him, he gets a thrill at imagining my anticipation of every red light. Suddenly, racing to make it through the intersection isn't nearly as interesting as slowing down when the light turns yellow -- and traffic, which we normally hate, becomes very sexy.

During dinner, my boyfriend turns on the remote at regular intervals, trying to pick the moments when I'll become the most flustered -- and the most excited. For example, I'll get a zap just as I'm telling the waiter I'd like pan-seared trout, then have to remain calm and unruffled as I tell him I'd prefer potatoes to rice. Or I'll feel a little thrill as I'm lifting the dessert fork to my lips -- giving my chocolate torte with raspberry sauce an entirely new sensual dimension. Or on the way out of the restaurant, he'll turn it on as I'm putting on my coat. By now, my knees are buckling the instant I feel the toy come to life.

The best part about wearing the remote to a restaurant is the interplay between secrecy and shamelessness. Restaurants are so loud no one can possibly hear the hum of the vibrator, so we can be assured that no one will know what's going on under the table. But on the other hand, when we're feeling very bold, we'll leave the remote sitting on the table, daring somebody to see it and guess what we're doing. We both love the mystery of it. Are we being naughty? Will someone figure out our little secret? It's quite a rush.

If we really want to draw out the excitement and anticipation, we go to see a movie afterward. My boyfriend will turn on the vibrator during action scenes, or jokes, or hot love scenes -- whenever the movie is loud enough to drown out the vibrator -- and by the end I can barely get up to leave.

Suffice it to say that by the time we get home, we make a mad dash for the bedroom.

One thing we found out quickly -- remote control vibrators are quiet, but they are vibrators. Don't think you'll get away with your little game in a quiet lecture hall or art museum. Stick to places with a light cover of sound, and only use remote-control toys at events from which you can easily escape -- nothing is worse than getting worked into a frenzy and being caught in the middle of the opera, where you can't get out without causing a ruckus!

Also, be sure to have a full understanding of the time delay between when your partner turns the remote on or off, and when the vibration actually stops or starts. There have been times when my boyfriend thought he turned off the butterfly, only to realize it was still vibrating -- sometimes at an inopportune moment! Practicing at home isn't a bad idea.

Finally, fresh batteries are your friends! It's no fun to anticipate an evening of fun, only to have your toy die on you before they serve the entrée. Test your batteries before you leave home, and consider carrying a fresh set in your purse.

Sometimes we play with remote-controlled toys to put some spark back into our marriage when things seem to have gotten a little routine. Sometimes we do it just because we're feeling randy and silly. Sometimes we feel a little dangerous and naughty. No matter why we do it, we're always satisfied with the end result: a fabulous evening of lovemaking.

Add some excitement. Try adding a wireless toy to your collection for supreme satisfaction. Shop Loverslane.com for a wide assortment of wireless toys.

Kegel Exercises - For a Healthy, Happy Sex Life

2010-06-11T08:58:00.002-04:00

The vagina—just like every other part of your body—needs regular exercise to keep it resilient, healthy and happy. Overtime, the vagina and its surrounding muscles on the pelvic floor can weaken, stretch, become torn and no longer offer support due to pregnancy, childbirth, aging, being overweight, abdominal surgery and inactivity. An important part of vaginal health is exercising a muscle called the PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle). It is a hammock-shaped muscle that stretches from the pubic bone to the tail bone. It forms the pelvic floor and supports the pelvic organs including the bladder, urethra and vagina.

Advantages of Good PC Health

Exercising your PC muscle has numerous advantages because it strengthens the pelvic floor. Strengthening this area will help prevent prolapse (slipping or sagging of the uterus), incontinence (loss of bladder or bowel control) and constipation. For women who are pregnant, a fit PC muscle will help relax muscles during birth allowing for easier deliveries through the birthing canal. After vaginal births, working the PC muscle will benefit you by restoring vaginal muscle tone and promoting perineal healing (the area between the anus and vagina that can stretch or tear during birth).

Some women suffer from painful disorders like vaginismus (pain from vaginal insertion), dyspareunia (painful intercourse) and female sexual dysfunction (loss of sex drive or diminished sexual satisfaction). Working your PC muscles will help make your vagina and pelvic floor stronger and more elastic which means it will stretch easier during sexual intercourse. It will also help stimulate the sex drive by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region which will enhance sensitivity and arousal as well as allow you to achieve orgasm easier. It is important however to consult your doctor if you suffer from any of the above disorders, before beginning any exercise routine.

Enhancing the Sexual Experience

Training your PC muscles is not only for women who suffer from disorders. PC workouts are very beneficial for all women, regardless of your age, your vagina’s physical condition, or whether or not you have given birth. Why? Since the PC muscle also encircles the outside of the vagina, healthy PC muscles will improve sexual arousal, allow you to feel your partner more fully during intercourse and intensify your partner’s pleasure by tightening the vagina cavity, thus enhancing lovemaking for both of you. And, that’s not all. Strong PCs allow you to reach orgasm more easily, experience more powerful and pleasurable orgasms, and may even help you achieve multiple orgasms as you learn to better control and respond to your sexual arousal. Fit PC muscles also improve G-spot stimulation and can help you learn to experience G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. Rhythmic squeezing of your PC muscles during intercourse will help increase lubrication, stimulate the clitoris, and massage your partner’s penis to take him to new heights of sexual ecstasy.

Finding your PC Muscle

It is very easy to find your PC muscle. You probably use it on a daily basis without even being aware of it. It is the muscle you use when you stop urinating mid-stream. The muscles of your pelvic floor tighten and your vaginal muscles clench when you activate this muscle. A method of locating the PC muscle is to insert a finger or two inside your vagina and squeeze until you feel the muscles gripping your fingers. So now that you’ve found it, how do you exercise it?

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are how you work the PC muscles, strengthen the pelvic floor and restore muscle tone to this area. Named after Dr. Arnold Kegel, kegels consist of contracting and relaxing the muscles in rhythmic intervals. There are different types of kegels and different methods for exercising them. Regularity when doing kegels is more important than how many you do in sequence. It is therefore recommended to do any of the following exercises three times a day. You can even mix them up. The exercises become easier the more often you do them. Remember to relieve your bladder first before performing kegels.

Basic Kegel

The Basic kegel is a slow, controlled squeeze of the PC muscle, as you draw upward and inward. Imagine that you are sucking water up through your vagina (you can actually do this in the bathtub when your PC muscles are strong). Each time you do this hold for a count of 3-5 seconds. Repeat 10 times.

Pulsing Kegels

Pulsing kegels involves squeezing and releasing the PC muscle rapidly in quick succession, in a pulsing tempo. It is important to maintain control during these, instead of aiming for speed. It is not a race. Work your way up 25 or 30 pulses.

Kegel Push-Outs

This exercise engages the PC muscles more thoroughly giving a great workout. Slowly squeeze in, taking a deep breath, then slowly, gently push out, releasing your breath. Continue in a slow, in-out sequence, breathing in, and then out in time with each contraction. Repeat 10-20 times.

Elevator Kegels

This is my favorite kegel and I find it really works to tighten those muscles. Imagine that your vagina is an elevator shaft with the opening at the vagina entrance. Slowly pull the muscles in starting at the vagina, continuing to tighten as you go up the shaft like an elevator going up to the top floor. Pause at the top, and then slowly lower in reverse sequence. You will feel the difference just after a few times. Repeat 10-20 times.

Kegels and Sex Toys

There are several “sex toy” products now available on the market that enhances kegel exercises. I think of them as barbells for the vagina. Just as adding weight-training to an exercise routine helps improve strength and muscle tone, adding sex toys to your kegels increases resistance and gives you something to squeeze around, adding an extra benefit to the workout. You can do this as part of your regular kegel workout, or during masturbation. Who knew that doing something so pleasurable could benefit you as well! Try using the following toys while enjoying clitoral stimulation simultaneously to enhance your enjoyment as well as the power of your orgasms.

Juno Weighted Exerciser:

This Kegel style exerciser made of seamless Lucite with increasing weights for the woman who wants to continuously strengthen her PC muscle.Continuously strengthen pelvic floor muscle with this weighted and graduated exerciser; we recommend use with a water-based lubricant. This toy has a completely seamless design is safer and more comfortable, while smooth surface makes entry and cleanup easier. Beginners should start by using the smaller end with support from the other hand, then work up to the next size/weight. More experienced women can begin with the larger end and work up to holding the exerciser with muscle only. Made by California Exotics. To purchase from Lover's Lane click here.

Vibrating Ben-Wa Balls:
The most incredible balls you will ever get your hands on! They are waterproof and feature high-tech four vibration modes. Pure vaginal or anal pleasure! Two AA batteries required, not included. Made by Novelties by Nasswalk. To purchase from Lover's Lane click here.

Wherever you want to start in learning how to perform kegel excercises is totally up to you. But...remember ladies! If you don’t have fit PC muscles you will not experience the full potential of your G-spot or female ejaculation. So, keep your vagina resilient, healthy and happy. And, as Sue Johanson says: “Use it or loose it!”

Hammer Time!

2010-06-10T09:00:00.001-04:00

Jane Seddon loves euphemisms! And she loves sex! So naturally these two things work out well in her book, Daily Sex. This week Jane gets a bit shy and never mentions penis, vagina, or any other sexual word, instead, she puts on her hard hat and gets ready for a pounding!

In this position, ladies get to "lay the hammer down". Guys, again you get to lounge and enjoy the view, while your lady lover faces away from you and sits up on you and the bed. To get started, the woman is to "place your hand around his nail to keep the head in place while you lower your hammer down his shaft."

if it looks like this, you are doing it wrong!

I have heard plenty of slang for vagina before, but never has anyone been so creative and ahead of her time as the one and only Jane Seddon! Im falling in love with her and her kinky hammer. Either way, please do not bring any real hammers into this, or there could be obvious problems.

again...wrong hammer

Ladies, if you lean your upper body forward in this position, it will ensure that the nail will have a nice tight fit. "Keep pounding your hammer up and down the shaft of his nail until both of you orgasm."

Jane finishes this entry off with a question, "would you rather get hammered or nailed?" I still believe that coming up with these positions, Jane was getting hammered.

time for another book!

As always, if you want to enjoy more than one wacky position a week, pick up Jane's book, it really is fun. It even comes with a month and day next to each picture, so you no longer have to use your imagination, just refer to the right page and get to sexin!

(guy pic from denniscooper-theweaklings.blogspot.com, mc hammer from sufferthegringo.wordpress.com)

The Curve - Sex Toy Review

2010-06-09T08:36:00.001-04:00

I have been coveting the Curve dildo for some time. Lucky me, my wish came true and my fairy Godmothers at Lover’s Lane have sent me a sex toy that even Cinderella’s ugly step-sisters would adore! Now, before the review, I’d like to present you with a bit of background on my personal preferences for sex toys, as I believe that everyone’s likes/dislikes are different, as well as personal experience, so therefore no matter how objective you are as a reviewer, your review is always somewhat subjective, obviously.

First of all, I am a clit junkie. I get off on vibrating clitoral stimulation, so I naturally love/adore/swoon over little clit vibes that rock my world. That said, I do also enjoy a good vaginal shagging, but usually dildos are not my favorite type of toys. However, in the past year I have been experimenting with my G-spot a lot and curved G-spot dildos are perfect for that purpose.

Now the Curve. Well, from visual observations alone, I could tell that the unique design of the Curve’s shape was going to hit it’s target. In fact, I have never seen a sex toy object better fashioned for this ultimate purpose. The folks at Fun Factory (the dildo’s manufacturers) really know their stuff. The Curve comes packaged in a nicely designed box with an information booklet and some free lube too which was a plus for me. One of my pet peeves is sex toy packaging that is usually superfluous and not often environmentally friendly. The Fun Factory box is well designed however for storage (if you want to save it to keep the dildo in) and made of cardboard for biodegradable recycling (if you want to chuck it). The booklet inside also gives you a good idea of how to use the dildo, in case you have never experimented with G-spot stimulation. This is an added bonus, for I know from working at a sex store that many women don’t know how to find theirs or when they do, how to stimulate it.

So, it was late afternoon when I curled up on the couch with my curvy new lover. If you can imagine Puff the Magic Dragon with a dick, the Curve is probably what it would look like with its purple color, curling design and winding ridges. I didn’t waste any time lubing up the large, bulbous head with some water-based lubricant (generally speaking, you shouldn’t use silicone lubricant with a silicone sex toy as it can cause a chemical reaction and ruin your beloved toy). The head was very thick and it took a moment for me to warm up to it and insert it through my lips. Once inside however, I opened upon it like a flower in bloom. I then got it comfortably positioned exactly where I wanted it: on my G-spot. The Curve is not meant for deep vaginal penetration, as it would be difficult to achieve that with its specially designed extreme S-shape. It is meant for hitting the G-spot, which on most women is about 1″-2″ inside the vagina on the front wall just under the pelvic bone. Not very deep.

Most times with a G-spot dildo or vibe, I use a pressure “ramming” action rather than an in-and-out, to stimulate my spot. The G-spot–on most women–responds best to direct, firm pressure similar to that of a firm rubbing or tapping stroke. The Curve is designed so you can effectively achieve this firm rubbing stroke by sliding it in-and-out by varying degrees as the heavily-ridged head stimulates the G-spot constantly no matter how you control it. The dildo is also made of medical-grade silicone which is very firm (therefore giving the ideal amount of pressure with little effort), yet flexible enough that it moves as a part of you: never too hard or too soft. The texture is luxurious and velvety soft.

I was amazed that with just a few of these short pumping strokes, my G-spot responded instantly. I usually have to be very turned on when I try G-spot stimulation (either with clitoral stimuli and a vibe, or much foreplay with a lover), but not so with the Curve. My G-spot puffed up like an inflatable prune transforming into plum (kind-of like a pumpkin transforming into a carriage? Okay, not quite) with only a few strokes and the feeling was simply euphoric, even magical one might say. I soon revved up the pumping action with a tilt of my wrist which was so easy to achieve because of the Curve’s lovely “royal curl” handle which virtually does all the work for you. Moments later I exploded with full body orgasms quickly followed by a wet rush of ejaculate. Time stood still (as if I were transported into a whimsical fairytale land), yet the sensation seemed to go on happily-ever-after. Okay. Enough of the silly fairytale metaphors.

This is the first dildo that has ever blown me totally away. And, although I’m not quite ready yet to give up my happy little clit vibes, the Curve has a permanent place on my bedside table, safe and handy in its own little box.

So, to reiterate the pluses of the Curve:
It has a innovatively designed curve perfect for G-spot stimulation, Large heavily-ridged head rubs just the right spot, Firm silicone material for firm yet gentle stroking, eco-friendly packaging, Comes with a how-to booklet, Is 100% medical-grade silicone so easy to keep clean, hypoallergenic, latex and phthalate-free and non-porous (has no pores for germs to hide in), Dishwasher safe, boilable, and waterproof

Negatives? Well, I hate to think of how many dragons are flying around penis-less just to make us girls happy. Poor Puff!

This wonderful dildo review was brought to you by the Fairy Godmothers at VibeReview and Fairytales everywhere that leave you happily-ever-after. Seriously, though-No Dragons were harmed in the manufacturing of the wonderful product.