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Why men don't wear condoms

2012-02-01T16:49:00.000-05:00

With so many different kinds of condoms to choose from like flavored, scented, ribbed, studded, edible, colored, lubed, tinglers, ticklers to celebrity picture condoms like Gene Simmons fully extended tongue running down the length of the condom, you’d think that there would be one to suit every man. But, still men complain that condoms disrupt the mood, make passion fade and deplete their erection.

When they do wear condoms they pout and say that the physical sensation is not as good as not wearing one.

You may be interested to know that men with very small or very large penises are more likely to avoid wearing condoms because they don’t fit comfortably. But they do come in different sizes: compact, regular and extra large.

Men will use any excuse not to use a condom if you let them, such as , “It’ spoils the mood”, “I’m too big” and my favorite is “If you really care about me, then you should trust me because you’re the only one.”

What is even more amazing is that cheating men don’t wear condoms. Learn from the mistakes of John Edwards and Arnold Schwarzenegger who both had affairs, got someone pregnant and destroyed their marriages.

Women need to insist on men wearing condoms, even if it means putting them on manually or with their mouth to protect themselves from STD’s and pregnancy.

Putting a condom on with your mouth can be a sexy experience and doesn’t have to slow down the mood. Here’s how to do it:

1. Select a special flavored condom from a preferred brand
2. Get your man excited so that his penis becomes hard
3. Be sure when opening the condom to be careful. Open it closest to the corners so that you won’t damage the condom itself
4. Once you have removed the condom from the package, turn the condom inside out, placing it in front of your teeth and behind your lips
5. Slip your tongue into the receptacle hole leaving room for when he ejaculates
6. Once you have the condom inverted in your mouth so that it will slide on correctly, push the condom onto the head with just your lips
7. Sucking gently on the receptacle to insure there is enough room for the semen, wrap your lips around the head of the penis rolling the condom down with your lips as you go towards the testes

This may be tricky the first few times so practice on a banana, cucumber dildo or your man.

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Sex up your bedroom

2012-01-28T16:47:00.001-05:00

If you want to sex up your love life then turn your bedroom into a lover’s paradise by giving it a sexy makeover. The minute you walk into your bedroom you should want to seduce and be seduced. Here are 12 steps to transform your bedroom into a love magnet.

1. Keep it tidy and clean as if a TV show was going to show up to film it.

2. Make the bed cozy and inviting with layers of matching sheets, cover and pillows.

3. Put a soft fluffy rug on the floor for some frisky foreplay.

4. Create mood lighting with dimmers, floor lamps, colored bulbs or candles.

5. Place water, wine, chocolates and other tasty treats on the bedside table.

6. Have a plant or vase with fresh cut flowers perched near a window.

7. Play music that will put you and your lover in the mood for love.

8. Add a large mirror strategically to catch glimpses of your lovemaking.

9. Accessorize with sexy props like lingerie, feathers and silk scarves.

10. Keep a hatbox under the bed to store tissues, condoms, lubes, massage oil, sex toys and sex games to fuel your passion.

11. Even an electric fireplace can turn a plain bedroom into a romantic hideaway.

12. Create a canopy look by hanging sheer curtain panels around your bed

After you’ve transformed your bedroom into a love magnet, create a special love nest area in every room in your home.

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Our Digital Catalog - Valentine's Day

2012-01-26T12:06:00.007-05:00

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Fun Facts about Valentine's Day!

2012-01-24T12:01:00.003-05:00

When did it all start?

There are various theories on the origin of Valentine's Day, but the most popular dates back to the time of the Roman Empire during the reign of Claudius II, 270 AD. Claudius didn't want men to marry during wartime because he believed single men made better soldiers. Bishop Valentine went against his wishes and performed secret wedding ceremonies. For this, Valentine was jailed and then executed by order of the Emperor on February 14. While in jail, he wrote a love note to the jailor's daughter signing it, "From your Valentine." Sound familiar?

More Valentine's Day-related History

The ancient Romans celebrated the Feast of Lupercalia on February 14th in honor of Juno, the queen of the Roman gods and goddesses. Juno was also the goddess of women and marriage.
Many believe the 'X' symbol became synonymous with the kiss in medieval times. People who couldn't write their names signed in front of a witness with an 'X.' The 'X' was then kissed to show their sincerity.
Girls of medieval times ate bizarre foods on St. Valentine's Day to make them dream of their future spouse.
In the Middle Ages, young men and women drew names from a bowl to see who would be their Valentine. They would wear this name pinned onto their sleeves for one week for everyone to see. This was the origin of the expression "to wear your heart on your sleeve."
In 1537, England's King Henry VII officially declared February 14th the holiday of St. Valentine's Day.

Chocolate

Casanova, well known as "The World's Greatest Lover," ate chocolate to make him virile.
Physicians of the 1800's commonly advised their patients to eat chocolate to calm their pining for lost love.
Richard Cadbury produced the first box of chocolates for Valentine's Day in the late 1800's.
More than 35 million heart-shaped boxes of chocolate will be sold for Valentine's Day.
Over $1 billion worth of chocolate is purchased for Valentine's Day in the U.S.

Flowers

73% of people who buy flowers for Valentine's Day are men, while only 27 percent are women.
15% of U.S. women send themselves flowers on Valentine's Day.

Roses

The red rose was the favorite flower of Venus, the Roman goddess of love.
Red roses are considered the flower of love because the color red stands for strong romantic feelings.
189 million stems of roses are sold in the U.S. on Valentine's Day.
California produces 60 percent of American roses, but the greater number sold on Valentine's Day in the United States are imported, mostly from South America.
Approximately 110 million roses, mostly red, will be sold and delivered within the three-day Valentine's Day time period.

Greeting Cards

Approximately one billion Valentines are sent out worldwide each year according to estimates by the U.S. Greeting Card Association. That's second only to Christmas.
Women purchase approximately 85 percent of all Valentines.
Teachers will receive the most Valentine's Day cards, followed by children, mothers, wives, sweethearts and pets.

And... More fun facts about Valentine's Day

In addition to the United States, Valentine's Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, United Kingdom, France, Australia, Denmark, and Italy.
The most fantastic gift of love is the Taj Mahal in India. It was built by Mughal Emperor Shahjahan as a memorial to his wife.
Every Valentine's Day, the Italian city of Verona, where Shakespeare's lovers Romeo and Juliet lived, receives about 1,000 letters addressed to Juliet.
About 3% of pet owners will give Valentine's Day gifts to their pets.
In the US, 64 percent of men do not make plans in advance for a romantic Valentine's Day with their sweethearts. Share these fun facts about Valentine's Day with a friend. Your sweetie might be especially interested in the last item. Happy Valentine's Day!

A Women's Buyer's Guice to Vibrators

2012-01-22T11:57:00.011-05:00

Whether it’s your fortieth or your very first, there are many factors to keep in mind when choosing a new vibrator. We’ll lay it all out for you. We might even test-drive a few.

Looking for a Battery-Operated Mr. Goodbar

Eleven years ago, after being exposed to the concept of vibrators through online stores (yes, kiddies, there were online sex stores eleven long years ago!), a certain young lady (of age, taste, and randiness) decided to take her sexuality into her own hands. Thus, she marched off to the local not-so-skeevy sex store to purchase a vibrator. She took her best friend, J, along with her for (im)moral support. The first one she picked up off of the shelf was a tiny, 4” plastic vibe…but when she held it up to show him, his response was, “Honey, if one that size came along, I’d throw it back and wait for it to grow up”.

She finally ended up picking up a slightly larger one (possibly in response to J’s size-queenery), along with a vibrating egg – and found herself disappointed by both. She tried vibrators again a few years later, buying the Holy Grail of vibes, the Hitachi Magic Wand, and again – disappointment. Where was the joy? Where were these amazing orgasms that she was promised she’d have, if she only got her buzz on?

The good news is that, eventually, this certain young lady started to have better luck in selecting her vibrators. She says she now has a few that make her happy, and get her off in delightful ways that her fingers and her partners’ tongues can’t quite manage. It took some understanding of her body and what it responds to; some patience and trial-and-error; and a clear understanding of what vibrators do – the proverbial how, what, why, where, who (me, please?) and, ultimately, when?

Sadly, we can’t tell you what will get YOU off – that’s kind of an individual thing – but we can totally be of assistance with helping you understand the types of vibrators out there, and what might work best to your own desires and specifications.

While you’re browsing for vibes, wondering which one is going to come to your home to play with you, you’ll want to look at what features it has. It’s helpful to know your preferences (or at least, take an educated guess) before you shell out money for a new honey of a toy. Some things to consider include:

1. Is it too big, or too small, or (yes!) just right?

2. Do you want a hard plastic surface, something softer, or something very flexible?

3. Do you want one speed, three speeds, or a dozen? Where are the controls located, and can you use them easily? Are there vibrating patterns that you’ll want to use, or are they unnecessary?

4. Does the cost fit your budget (don’t forget to factor in the batteries!)?

5. Is it waterproof?

6. Will it clean up easily? How do you store it?

It’s useless to buy a vibrator of any kind if it’s more challenging to use it and care for than it’s worth – so remember to take all of this into account before you buy!

Traditional Vibrators

When many people visualize a vibrator, what they're thinking about is a slim-line vibe, which is also known as a traditional vibrator. These old reliables were customarily made with a hard plastic case and a cap at the base, which not only handled the on/off and speed control, but also fully unscrewed for battery-changing. Today’s offerings, however, include a variety of materials from the less-safe jelly style, through the range of safer plastics and silicones, so there are oodles and oodles of options to choose from!

The traditional-style vibes can be used for a variety of ways of getting your groove on. Obviously, many women like to have them inserted vaginally, to provide some internal buzz to the walls of the vagina and to the G-spot; however, they can also be used directly on the clitoral area, the inner and outer labia, and against the anus (though if you insert it rectally, you’ll want to put a condom on it if you plan on using it vaginally later, to prevent bacterial transmission). They also make fantastic toys for guys who like the buzz, especially against their anus or their taint (the bit of skin between the base of the scrotum and the ass), which will give them some indirect prostate stimulation as well.

Rabbit Style Vibes

Made famous by a certain TV show that had something to do with women enjoying carnal knowledge in the confines of a modern metropolis, Rabbits (also known as dual-stimulation vibrators) are probably the most well-known type of vibrators out there, especially among the younger crowd. Let’s face it – they’re fun-looking, non-intimidating, and they offer both internal stimulation AND penetration, as well as an external vibrating stimulator (usually used on the clit, but can be turned around for perineal teasing).

While some do depict animal shapes - rabbit ears, a dolphin nose, a snake tongue, panther paws - others have more abstract clitoral stimulators, with shapes such as waves, flames, and so on. The shaft of each Rabbit-style vibe differs from toy to toy – some shafts vibrate, others rotate or thrust, and some even have beads that move inside the shaft for additional stimulation.

Clitoral Vibes

These are the tried-and-true of the vibrator hierarchy, designed with a solitary raison d'etre: to get your clitoris to sing! And possibly do a little dance as well. Clitoral vibes come in all different shapes and sizes: the bullet or egg-shaped vibes, with or without a power pack and a cord; the curved, hand-held vibes that are shaped to literally fit your own unique contours; the power-house vibes that serve only to jar your bits with as much vibration possible; and the novelty-shaped clitoral vibes, which can either be more discreet or add a little cute factor to your private time.

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10 Reasons the Hitachi Magic Wand is my Favorite Vibrator

2012-01-20T11:54:00.006-05:00

The classic Hitachi Magic Wand is the old reliable, go-to vibrator for many women, for so many reasons.

Recently, tragedy struck: my Hitachi Magic Wand shorted out. At first I thought all my appliances had gone bust; I smelled smoke in the air, and quickly turned off my power strip. It was only my beloved electric vibrator, however, that had died; its wires frayed over the years, probably not helped by me leaving it plugged into the power strip for easy access. I'm not saying I don't like other toys, and I'm definitely open to trying new ones, but this is my favorite, the one I go to when I don't want to waste time, when I just want to cut to the chase, and I imagine it always will be. It may not be the prettiest sex toy around, and it's loud and not exactly subtle, but all those are small concerns next to what it can do for my pussy. Obviously it can also be used during partnered sex, but I'm focusing on solo masturbation because that's what I'm using it for at the moment.

Now that I have a new one to keep me company, I figured I'd write an ode to my beloved toy:

1. It's powerful. Plain and simple, it provides the sensation I like against my clit and along my vulva. I know some women temper the intensity with a towel, but I like it direct and strong.

2. It's fast. This goes along with it being powerful, but I think deserves its own designation. The toy has two settings, and I prefer mine on high. When I say "fast" I mean that it only takes a few seconds before I'm into it. I don't need to warm up, and in fact I usually use my Hitachi when I'm already in the mood, when I'm turned on by a fantasy or simply because I'm horny.

3. It doesn't need batteries. This may seem like a simple thing, but for someone like me, who probably owns dozens of batteries but has no idea where they are, the idea of being oh-so-close and not being able to fully enjoy myself because my batteries died is sad.

4. It's an outie vibrator. My very first vibrator was a rabbit vibrator, and I loved the sensation of its dual action, spinning away inside me while the pearls rotated and the ears buzzed against my clit. But ever since I first used a Hitachi I've been pretty faithful. Sometimes I use another toy inside me with the Hitachi against my clit, but for the most part, I'm a clit girl, and that is the area I most want attended to when I'm masturbating. Sometimes I tap it, lightly or, when I'm in the mood, more firmly, against myself, and the dual thrill of the vibration and the power of feeling it land against me there is amazing. I do generally tend to prefer outie vibrators to ones you insert, because I might think I want it inside me but when I go to put it in I'm either not wet enough or it just doesn't feel right. I don't have that sensation with the Hitachi; the biggest change I might make is to use it on a lower setting, or to not press it so tightly against me.

5. As I've written about before, I am not the most easily orgasmic person around. Much as I adore my Hitachi, I don't always come from it but I appreciate that the sensations I do get out of it feel amazing to me. I don't have the sense that it would be great if only I could get there all the way. I like the drawn out tension it gives my body. I like that sometimes I lie flat on my back and press it hard against my clit; sometimes I pretty much hump it; sometimes I'm on my side or in another position.

6. It gives my right arm a workout. I had a friend once who claimed that the muscles in her dominant arm were actually stronger from all the time she logged using her Hitachi. It's possible, right? But I really do feel stronger when I've had a good long session with it.

7. It's not that expensive. I'm on a budget now and have a lot of bills to pay, and while I wasn't about to forgo masturbation entirely, especially since I'm now mostly working from home, I'd have to save up for some of the more pricey toys. This one is totally within my budget.

8. I've been using it for so long that I have a sentimental attachment to it. Looking at my Hitachi, even a brand-new one, reminds me of many other times I've enjoyed one, kind of like when you hook up with an ex. Maybe I'm anthropomorphizing overly much, but knowing not only that the Hitachi is reliable, but that I've been using it for most of the time I've been masturbating, makes me happy. I'm dorky like that, but I'm definitely the type of person to return to an old standby, whether it's a favorite food or a favorite toy, rather than constantly seeking out something new.

9. This is sort of an added bonus, but when you tell someone else about your love of the Hitachi Magic Wand, they usually know what you're talking about. It's not some rare discontinued toy you have to hunt down or that requires pages and pages of explanations on how to use it.

10. It really does work well as a back massager. As someone who carries heavy bags with me al the time, I appreciate that not only can the toy multitask, but it can really dig into the sore spots on my back and make those aches and pains feel better.

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More Great Sex Facts! (continued)...

2012-01-18T11:49:00.000-05:00

11. During sexual intercourse, in addition to the genitals and breasts, the inner nose also swells.
12. White women are the most likely to engage in anal sex, particularly if they also have a college degree.
13. During erection, a smaller flaccid penis tends to have a greater percentage increase than a larger flaccid penis.
14. A teaspoon of semen contains approximately 5 calories.
15. Sex burns off an average of about 100 calories per session.
16. On average, from two to five million sperm are released each time a man ejaculates.
17. During any given period, women who read romance novels have a tendency to have twice as many lovers as those who don’t.
18. Almost a third of all women over 80 years of age still have sex with their spouse or boyfriend.
19. For both men and women, the heart rate averages 140 beats per minute at the point of orgasm.
20. The average woman will have sex more than 3,000 times over the course of her reproductive years.
21. Most men under 40 years of age can achieve an erection in less than 10 seconds.
22. Heterosexual anal sex is something 43% of women have experienced.
23. Women consider penis size the ninth most important feature for a man, while men rate it much more highly, in third place.
24. When a man ejaculates, the initial spurt travels at 28 miles per hour – faster than the world record for the 100m sprint, which currently stands at 22.9 miles per hour.
25. In one hour, the average sperm can swim seven inches.
26. With nothing in its path, a penis can shoot semen anywhere from 12 to 24 inches.
27. The longest erect penis on record was 13 inches. The smallest was 1cm.
28. There are 20 male masochists for every female masochist.
29. The average adult testicle contains enough sperm to measure a quarter of a mile laid out end to end.
30. For 75% of men, ejaculation occurs within 3 minutes of penetration.

Sex Facts! New for 2012!

2012-01-16T11:48:00.000-05:00

Here's some interesting facts to add to your already high volume of wisdom!

1. A woman is more likely to want to commit adultery during ovulation than at any other time in her cycle.
2. Telling a convincing lie to someone is much more difficult when you find them sexually attractive.
3. Minute quantities of over 30 different substances have been identified in human semen. These include nitrogen, fructose, lactic acid, ascorbic acid, inositol, cholesterol, glutathione, creatine, pyruvic acid, citric acid, sorbitol, urea, uric acid and Vitamin B12, along with various salts and enzymes.
4. Chocolate contains phenylethylamine, the same feel-good chemical responsible for the ecstatic high people experience through sexual attraction and love.
5. Women who have given birth have darker labia minora than women who haven’t.
6. The majority of women experience a peak in libido just before their period.
7. -321°F is the temperature at which sperm banks store donor semen. At this temperature, semen can be stored indefinitely.
8. The point at which the average man reaches his sexual peak is between the ages of 17 and 18.
9. The earth could be re-populated to its current level using the number of sperm that could fit into an aspirin capsule.
10. A chicken egg could accommodate the number of female ova necessary to repopulate the earth to its present numbers.

30 Things You Should Vow To Do In Bed in 2012!

2012-01-14T11:40:00.000-05:00

Have you made a New Years Resolution? Have you already not stuck to the resolution you made? How about we add a little spice to your New Years Resolution Ideas and give you 30 Things you should vow to do in bed in 2012!

…to shave my legs more often.
…to replace my stained period undies with saucy new pairs.
…to try new sex toys.
…to get over my fear of sleeping with someone new.
…to have more of it.
…to try a butt plug on a dude.
…to initiate sex with my boyfriend more.
…to give more back rubs, instead of just receiving them all the time!
…to watch a porn together that we both think is sexy.
…to show him exactly how I like to be spanked.
…to go on the birth control pill so I can ditch condoms.
…to help him perfect his cunnilingus technique.
…to have an orgasm without the help of BOB (battery operated boyfriend).
…to just kiss more often.
…to actually go to yoga so I can bend like a pretzel in the sack.
…to purchase bed raisers so my mattress will be the perfect height for my BF to do me standing up.
…to grow out my pubic hair and then get a proper wax instead of the hack job I do shaving every week.
…to do my Kegels every day!
…to hold out for someone I actually like — not because I think it’s slutty to screw indiscriminately, but because it’s more rewarding physically.
…to ALWAYS use condoms until I’m monogamous and we’ve had a serious conversation and agreed on another birth control method.
…to stop faking my orgasms.
…to get over my insecurity about having large and dangling labia.
…to get in better shape so I don’t find getting on top to be so … tiring.
…to not have any more drunken sex that I don’t remember.
…to make love at least once, not just f**k.
…to have sex with someone just because I feel like it without worrying about what it will mean.
…to send more naked pics.
…to find my elusive g-spot.
…to try more role playing.
…to purchase some slutty lingerie.

20 Things Guys Have Said That Totally Turned Us On!

2012-01-12T11:36:00.000-05:00

The right sentiments expressed in a sincere way can turn a guy we’ve barely noticed into someone we’d like to make the center of our universe. Hot things men have said also live forever in our minds. No, I will never forget the guy who told me he wanted to live alone in a yurt, but when given the option, I prefer to remember the guy who told me he could listen to me talk forever because he “loved the sound of my voice.” It turned me into a goo puddle. I keep that memory in my pocket for rainy days. After the jump, a collection of the sexiest, most goo-ifying compliments we’ve ever received. Good work guys.

I love the sound of your voice. In that case I will keep on talking.
I want to know what your hair looks like in the morning. Keep saying crap like that and you will.
You are a high-quality person. And you are a high-quality person for noticing.
You have a star quality. Let me shine it on you.
I love the way your skin feels. Them is bedding words.
I want to show you off. Um, yes!
I love your soulful eyes. This is so much more original than just saying my eyes are pretty. Way to take it to the next level.
I want to know how you take your coffee. I like it light, sweet, and served to me in your bed.
You look pretty when you wake up in the morning. This all the motivation I need to start spending the night more often. That, and the coffee in bed.
You’re going to be so beautiful when you’re 68. You want to know me when I’m a senior citizen? Melt, melt, melt.
I don’t want to share you with other people. Don’t worry, I’m yours.
You are a creative genius. Tell me I’m funny and I’ll get down on one knee.
You’re gonna run the world one day. Just for saying that, I will make you second-in-command.
I love your shoes. Complimenting my shoes is almost as intimate as complimenting my vagina.
You are magnetic. Good, I hope that means you’ll stick around.
I thought about you all day at work. So hot that he admitted that because I was thinking about him all day at work too.
You have made the last few months so bright. Then I shall continue to shine on!
I slept so well with you next to me. That’s me, the most natural insomnia remedy around!
I made you something. I don’t even care what it is, that you produced something with your hands is enough to make me wet.
I love the way you smell. Thanks, Coty wanted to bottle it, but my essence can’t be mass-produced.

What are some things — outside of the standard dirty talk — that a guy/girl/significant other has said to you that really turned you on? Share in the comments!

10 Romantic Christmas Songs to Get Busy To

2011-12-20T14:01:00.000-05:00

After the news that Justin Bieber and Mariah Carey decided to jointly disgrace themselves in the remake of Mariah's 1994 hit, "All I Want for Christmas Is You," I thought I'd never want to hear another holiday song in my entire life. But it's been a few hours, and I've calmed down a bit. A few deep breaths and a healthy serving of pecan pie did the trick. All's right in the world again, the burning sensation in my eyes and that vomit taste in my mouth have both subsided, and it's time once again to look on the bright side.
So to cleanse our Christmas song palate, I've compiled a list of the 10 most romantic songs this holiday season. Some make me want to hold hands and take a walk with my honey-bunny, some make me wanna snuggle at the hearth's edge, and some make me want to be married by a snowman we've pretended is Parson Brown.

"Winter Wonderland," Bing Crosby. It's an upbeat song about taking a stroll, getting married in a meadow, conspiring by the fire. So sweet.
"Christmas Lights," Coldplay. I don't know, it just makes me want to be held. By anyone. At all. No discrimination. Hold me.
"I'll Be Home for Christmas," Doris Day. I bet this song is especially romantic for those couples and families with loved ones in the military. Day sings this song beautifully -- it really pulls at the heartstrings.
"Santa Baby," Eartha Kitt. It's a little more sexy than romantic, but it puts you in the right mood.
"Baby It's Cold Outside," Margaret Whiting and Johnny Mercer. I wish this song was played year round. It's so good! And very romantical.
"White Christmas," Bing Crosby. Such a great, mellow song to slow dance to. All you need is a poofy skirt, high heels, and a man to latch onto on the dance floor.
"Please Come Home for Christmas," Aaron Neville. This song speaks to my heart. It's a little, wee bit sad, but still very touching.
"That Spirit of Christmas," Ray Charles. What a wonderful feeling, indeed. His voice is so smooth, you can't help but get close to someone and sway.
"Merry Christmas Baby," the one and only Otis Redding. He sings about diamonds, kissing, Santa, and presents. It's absolutely perfect.
"Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas," Christina Aguilera. If you don't mind Xtina, this version of the classic song is totally sultry yet sentimental.

What are your favorite romantic holiday songs?

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3 Very Common Sex Problems, You Shouldn't Be Ashamed To Have

2011-12-18T13:59:00.000-05:00

Thankfully, we no longer live in the stone age. Openly now, we can discuss sex, our sex lives, and what we do and do not want in the bedroom. How often, though, do we actually discuss the PROBLEMS we've faced in our sex lives.

It's time to talk about sex -- and common sexual problems. Because everyone deserves a great sex life -- even you.

The Journal of the American Medicine Association (JAMA), wrote an article in 1999 that unearthed the very real truth: sexual problems are common in both men and women, but more common in women. Here are the common sexual problems JAMA discovered:

Lack of sexual desire -- the lack of interest in sex or desire for sex is common in both men and women -- but more common in women. This lack of desire is temporary for some people and ongoing in others. It can be caused by relationship or emotional problems, as well as a side effect of many types of medications.

Difficulties becoming aroused or achieving orgasm -- sometimes a difficulty becoming aroused is related to decreased sexual desire, but in others, a woman feels sexual desire but cannot actually become aroused. Anorgasmia -- or absent orgasm -- is common and very upsetting to a woman who feels desire and does become aroused. Being unable to achieve orgasm may be sporadic, or it may be ongoing. Obviously, this is a frustrating situation that may lead to a lack of sexual desire.

Pain during sex -- also called dyspareunia is actually fairly common. This pain can begin during sex and last for days following the encounter. Clearly, when a woman feels pain during sex, it may also inhibit her desire to have sex. Sometimes, a doctor can help a woman by searching for -- and treating -- the underlying cause of dyspareunia.

The causes of these common sexual problems can be as varied and complex as we are. We shouldn't be ashamed of having them, but we should work on them. The good news is that by talking to your doctor, you may be able to fix them and enjoy a normal, enjoyable, rockin' sex life.

Have you dealt with any of these issues? How do you handle them? Any tips for others suffering the same types of problems?

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The secret to the most magical orgasm.

2011-12-16T09:07:00.000-05:00

It seems like women have a lot going on in their pubic area. While it may sound confusing and seem overwhelming, it's not. In fact, most of it is pretty amazing. Especially if you know the right areas. It's time to tell you all about the blended orgasm.

Trust me, you should take notes.

So what's this about a blended orgasm, you ask? It's an orgasm that mixes both of those delicious erotic spots into a single delightful climax.

Great, now how do you do that?

Women generally have two zones that cause orgasm: the c-spot and the g-spot (sounds like too many spots, I know, but pay attention). Most women achieve orgasm through the c -- or clitoral -- spot, which is the most accessible of the two.

To have a blended orgasm, first you have to find your g-spot. Your c-spot (your clitoris) you should be well and truly familiar with. The g-spot, though, is kinda tricky to find, so bear with me.

So first, get your engines revved up. Grab your vibrator or your hand and start to stimulate your c-spot. When you're finally nice and in the mood, it's time to find your g-spot! (Trust me, you'll thank me.)

Place your index finger inside your vagina and feel along the front wall for a slightly rough, swollen nub. You can't miss it -- the minute you find it, you'll find yourself much more stimulated than before. Begin to stimulate your g-spot with one hand. As you feel yourself reaching climax, begin to stimulate your clitoris with the other.

When you reach climax -- and you will -- it'll be unlike anything you've ever felt.
You can thank me later.

Have you had one of these beauties yet?

5 Amazing Sex Positions, that will not disappoint!

2011-12-14T14:05:00.003-05:00

Sometimes sex, especially if it's with the same partner, can get a little ... routine. And sometimes routine means, well, dull. Don't worry, I won't tell on you if you're nodding your head in agreement. We've all been there. No shame in it.

But maybe it's time to spice up your sex life. Try these orgasm-inducing sex positions to mix your sex life on up.

1. Modify doggie-style (sex on all fours) to make it a little more orgasmic for you. Try lying flat on the bed, lifting your butt a little bit for entry. This should provide a little more friction as your partner moves in and out, but also allows for the c-spot (clitoris) to be stimulated against the bed.

2. So missionary position might get a little boring. Time to mix it on up! Put a pillow under your butt as you lay on your back, bring your shoulders up, and try to get your feet around your shoulders, sorta like you're folding yourself into a pretzel. This will allow for g-spot stimulation and your partner to enter more deeply inside of you.

3. Mix it up. Move the sex out of the bedroom and into the kitchen. Or dining room. Or anywhere you have a table. Just make sure it's waist height for your partner. Lay down, butt on the edge of the table, and rest your legs on his chest. He can hold on to your hips. Rock them up and down while touching your c-spot for increased sensation.

4. Straddle him, so that you're both facing each other, which increases the intimacy of staring into your partner's eyes while you make love. This provides you with a lot of control to garner how much penetration you want. Sway back and forth rather than up and down, which will also increase clitoral stimulation.

5. Spooning is a great way to increase those snuggly, intimate feelings between you and your partner. Have your partner snuggle in behind you, and gently thrust back and forth while keeping his penis inside your vagina. This will consistently stimulate your g-spot, and he can use his hand (or yours!) to stimulate your clitoris as well, creating a wonderful blended orgasm.

Have another position to add to the list? Do tell!

Sex in a public place, could save your marriage (relationship).

2011-12-12T14:03:00.000-05:00

Do you like having sex in public? You do, don't you! I knew it! Well guess what. You're not alone. According to a recent survey by sex toy company Adam and Eve, 52 percent of the 1,000 adults they asked have done the dirty deed in a public place. A parked car was the number one place couples got down, the woods came in second, then there was a smattering of airplane and public bathroom admissions, followed by the most disturbing: church. If you're reading this and have had sex in church, I would like to know how and why you came to that decision. I'm intrigued.

Anyway, a fancy-pants sex-expert says that knocking the boots in public is one way to really spice up your relationship/get arrested.

OK well she didn't warn about getting caught, but yeah, it's not exactly street legal to pollinate the flower in a public park, (ifyouknowwhatI'msaying). However, if you're able to be discreet and not scar any innocent children, then the understanding is that a public rendezvous can add excitement and thrills to your boring, everyday love making sessions. So if you're feeling a little spicy tonight, drag your man into the woods and get after it!

Lord knows you won't be the first people to do so. I was a little surprised to read that 52 percent have blazed a sexy trail out of the bedroom and into the cars and/or bathrooms. Neither automobiles nor commodes really do the trick for me, but I suppose their lockable doors and accessibility make them prime spots for a little naked wrestling.

I just hope no one does it in the movie theater while I'm there. I'm sorry. In NYC I'm now paying $13 to see a flick, and the last thing I want is a sideshow porno going on in the seats next to me. So stay out of the theaters, folks, please. Anywhere else? Go for it. Now make like dragonflies and have sex all over the gosh darn place.

Have you had sex in a public place?

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More Great Gift Ideas For This Christmas

2011-12-09T15:53:00.024-05:00

INA
You know a company has developed a brand when you start to look forward to their take on classic sex toys. And that’s how I felt when I heard that Lelo was turning their considerable design and construction attention to the rabbit vibrator. Providing simultaneous clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration INA is made of silicone, is rechargeable, and holds a four-hour charge after just two hours of charging. INA also features a much better user interface for it’s multi-speed eight modes of vibration than the sometimes-confusing original dial design. Finally the folks at Lelo deserve special mention for their command of color. I would never have thought orange and green vibrators could be so appealing.

Mystic Wand
Almost any toy from Vibratex, the nicest Japanese vibrator company on the planet, is a good bet for holiday giving, but if I had to pick one this year it would be the new Mystic Wand. Inspired, I suspect, by the Hitachi Magic Wand, this little guy is a portable powerhouse, and relatively quiet given it’s speed. It has a flexible silicone head (they promise attachments sometime soon) and six modes of vibration. It both looks like and functions as a full body massager, so if you need an excuse you can always say it’s for your back.

We Vibe 3
A completely unique design meant to offer couples a way of seamlessly integrating vibration into sex play. The We Vibe 3 provides clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation during intercourse as it stays in place during penetration (with a toy or a man). Worn while making love, the We-Vibe® 3 comes equipped with a convenient wireless remote control. And the wireless charger base that doubles as a discreet, perfect-for-travel storage case. We-Vibe® 3 brings the good vibrations of the world’s #1 vibrator for couples to a whole new level of fun! Make a Splash with Your Partner Like all our products, We-Vibe® 3 is body-safe and eco-friendly, and now it’s completely waterproof, too! You can bring more playfulness into the shower or bath - and share more wet and wild passion than ever before!

GiGi
The Swedish designers at LELO continue their reputation of designing beautiful objects with an almost maddening functionality (seriously, until you figure it out, it can drive you crazy). But, once you’ve found your groove with these toys, you won’t want to stop putting them through their paces (or maybe that should be your paces…I’m not sure). Gigi features several vibration settings, quiet operation, high-quality silicone, and well-insulated handles, in addition to a sexy, minimalist design. It can be used externally or for penetration. Gigi offers a unique g-spot design.

2011- Great Gift Ideas This Christmas

2011-12-07T15:47:00.001-05:00

Tiani
Several years ago a Canadian company designed a brand new kind of sex toy, one that could be worn during vaginal intercourse to increase stimulation with vibration that can be felt by both partners. Now the folks at LELO have turned this concept on its side, or at least they're letting us do it. Tiani is similarly designed to be inserted vaginally and can be used during intercourse, but it offers a few amazing innovations. First, it comes with a remote control, so you don't have to move the vibrator to cycle through one of the six vibration patterns. Second, the vibrator itself responds to movement, tilt it slightly or shake it up, and the vibrations change in response to the motion. Definitely a luxury, but one worth trying for those who can afford it.

Duke
For the prostate stimulation lover on your holiday gift list, the Duke is a welcome addition to anal vibrators. It's silicone, rechargeable, and has eight different vibration patterns. Plus the vibrator is removable so the silicone toy can be boiled in water or otherwise immersed for easy cleaning. The design makes it an easy toy to use on your own or on a partner, and when its fully inserted the base provides external perineum stimulation as well. What more could a fella ask for Christmas?

Cobra Libre
Not an inexpensive gift, but my number one recommendation for 2010, the Cobra Libre is a revolution in penis-focused sex toys. Powerful vibration, seductive design elements, and a shape that will literally have them touching themselves in new and erotic ways, the Cobra Libre offers buzz and suction and fun.

NJoy Pure Wand
Dildos can be a tricky gift, size and shape being so much of what goes into the right dildo for the right person. But if you know they're serious about penetration, it's unlikely the receiver of a Pure Wand will be disappointed. Beautifully crafted in medical-grade stainless steel, the Pure Wand is great for both g spot and prostate stimulation and has a feel and weight (24 ounces to be precise) to it that makes it almost as much fun to have in your hands as to have in other body parts. Each nJoy product is presented in a lovely satin lined storage box, but these are objects that could just as easily be displayed on a mantle.

Tenga Flip Hole
Last, but certainly not least, is my favorite gift for penis-having people. I know every toy is described this way, but the Tenga Flip is a completely unique sensory experience. And because of its unique inner chamber design, you can dramatically change the way it feels every time you use it. Its easy to clean, durable, and kind of futuristic looking. Ive already given two as gifts, and that wasn't even during the holidays. Read my full review below for all the details.

Best Places to Hide your Sex Toys

2011-12-06T13:59:00.000-05:00

I'm a pretty big fan of sex toys, if I'm being honest (and I'm ALWAYS honest with you). I have more than I probably should, because there's no love like self-love, and well, I like variety. However, with a mess of sex toys (AND a mess of kids), I have trouble finding places to store them where the small ones won't come find them.
But I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Here are the best places I've found to hide sex toys. Just please don't tell my kids!
1. In a locked bedside table drawer. That way, the toy is always within reach whenever you're feeling the itch to get down and dirty. If your kids get curious about it (mine have), just let them know that even adults are allowed to have secrets. It teaches them a great lesson about privacy and reminds them that you are, in fact, a person too.
2. Shoe boxes. There's almost no reason that my kids are going to go rooting through my shoe boxes. I mean, in the occasional instance in which they need one to make a diorama, I can find them one, but otherwise? BO-RING! It's less convenient than the bedside table, which just means that you have to plan ahead. Not the end of the world.
3. In a coat pocket in your closet. Okay, so this one might be a stretch if you have a sex toy collection like I do, but again, there's very little reason that anyone has any call to go into my closet and wear one of my bazillion coats. It's sort of like hiding them in plain sight. Just make sure you take it out before wearing the coat. Or not.
4. A lock-box. I keep meaning to pick up one of those cheap lock-boxes from the store, but they make lock-boxes in all sizes. Which means I can hide my substantial stash all together in one place.
5. Tupperware. I'm not talking about one of those clear ones, but one of the big ones. Maybe you can throw the sex toys in the bottom of your out-of-season-clothes. That's another place no one would want to look (read: boring!) and should be fairly easy-access for you.
So, where do YOU hide your sex toys? Maybe I can learn something new!

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Favorite Love Songs

2011-11-30T12:09:00.000-05:00

The top eleven love songs that we can't stop listening to.

"Baby" by Justin Bieber. Yes, J-Biebs. The kid literally took over the world this year. His face was on every television screen, computer monitor and copy of Tiger Beat magazine. And our guilty pleasure was listening to him sing about love scorned. "Are we an item?/Girl, quit playin'/We're just friends?/What are you sayin'?" We couldn't help but feel bad for Justin. It's not like we've ever been in those shoes, though. Duh. Selena Gomez & Justin Bieber Share Pancakes Together, Maybe More

"Mine" by Taylor Swift. Taylor Swift does sing-your-heart-out love tunes better than anyone, and "Mine" was perfect. We love hearing her break-up anthems, bleeding ballads and revenge songs, but we do occasionally like to be happy, too. The story about young love on this track made us swoon a little. Too sweet.

"Just the Way You Are" by Bruno Mars. We all get a little insecure sometimes, and that's probably why this song dominated the charts this year. Bruno basically told us (and his lady love) what we knew all along: That we're amazing just the way we are. The reminder is always appreciated.

"Mama's Song" by Carrie Underwood. Carrie got married! It was a big year for our girl, but we're ecstatic she had time to croon about Mr. Right on this tear-jerking tune. (Tears of joy, friends.) "He is good, so good/He treats your little girl like a real man should." That's all we'll ever ask for. We're happy Carrie's found it. No Pregnancy Plans For Carrie Underwood...Yet

"Love the Way You Lie" by Eminem featuring Rihanna. A love song gone bad, this track chronicled the downfall two people in one very toxic situation. Em managed to capture the horrific emotion of an abusive relationship, while also creating a cool rhythm with his raps and RiRi's crooning on the chorus. All that angst? We couldn't stop listening.

"Teenage Dream" by Katy Perry. "You make me feel like I'm living a teenage dream/The way you turn me on, I can't sleep." The song exploded onto the charts this year, which seemed pretty apt. We sort of get the feeling Mrs. Russell Brand is living her very own teenage dream right this very instant, don't you? Katy Perry Takes Russell Brand’s Name

"OMG" by Usher. Usher used this text acronym to croon his way into our hearts this summer. We spent those blistering months with the windows rolled down, reciting "Oh my gosh/I'm so in love/I found you finally/You make me wanna say 'O-O-O...'" And we didn't even feel ridiculous doing it. OK, maybe a little.

"Hey, Soul Sister" by Train. This was hands-down the best love song for lifting moods. It has that stellar dance-worthy beat. The lyrics spoke to how a person can absolutely captivate you. "I'm so obsessed/My heart is 'bout to beat/Right out my untrimmed chest." We get the meaning.

"Break Your Heart" by Taio Cruz. This song frustrated the heck out of us. We didn't really get why Taio made up his mind from the beginning that he was going to be an anti-compromising, selfish heartbreaker. Ugh. We keep telling ourselves it's only a (quite catchy) song.

"Your Love Is My Drug" by Ke$ha. This one's just another single about the hopeless addiction that love sometimes is. However, the Queen of Trashy-Glam just sang it so well. "I'm all strung-out/My heart is fried/I just can't get you/Off my mind." We loved it. Love Is An Addiction, Breakup Like Withdrawal

"Telephone" by Lady Gaga featuring Beyonce. Haven't we all been there? Out with the girls, and some guy just won't leave you alone. Gaga and Beyonce reminded us that needy men are never attractive. Actually, there is one exception: When you can pen a chart-topping hit single about their behavior. Then, all is forgiven.

What's your favorite love song?

5 Ways to Get Your Wife To Have Sex With You! (Repost)

2011-11-28T12:04:00.000-05:00

Monday, August 16, 2010 (original post here)
By Logan Levkoff

OK guys, stop all your whining and complaining for a second and listen up: If you want more sex from your wives, you have to grow up and recognize that people change, relationships change, and your sex life doesn’t stay the same.

As a sexologist, relationship expert, and contributor to Good in Bed, the one question I’m constantly asked is: "How can I get my wife to have more sex with me?" Well, I also happen to be a wife and mother of two little ones, so I’m going to give it to you straight. Here’s my advice for not screwing it up and actually getting some tonight:

1. Snuggle, Don’t Grope. You’re in the mood, so you reach out and grab us—our breasts, butt, or genitals, that is. Guys, believe me when I tell you that this is the biggest sin you can commit when trying to seduce a woman. It will not send us into an orgasmic swoon. (And, hey, if it does, you don’t need my advice, right?). Neither will groping us in the kitchen while we’re unloading the dishwasher.

only looking for dish soap

These inept moves don’t get us all hot and bothered — they just upset us. Try hugging or kissing. Hold and squeeze our hand. Unload the dishwasher yourself. Women want to feel connected to our partners—in ways that don’t always involve sex.

As guys, you see something sexy and suddenly you’re in the mood for sex, ready to go. You pick up the mail, there’s a Victoria Secret catalog in the box, and next thing we know you’re sniffing in our direction like a dog expecting a treat. But women don’t work like that. We may see something that’s sexy, and that something may even be you, but we don’t suddenly want to have sex. That’s where men and women differ: You have to actually put us in the mood. You have to make us feel sexy and make us want to be sexual.
Here’s a tip: Did you know that studies show that if you hug for partner for 30 seconds it raises her oxytocin levels? Oxytocin is a hormone that makes us feel loving and connected and helps put us in the mood. So start with a hug.

2. Don’t Treat Us Like Porn Stars. Just because you can pay to watch a chick with fake boobs and a fake tan fawn all over some hairy, grunting guy doesn’t mean you can treat us like some 30-second money shot. Women crave seduction. We crave pleasure. We want sex to be, well, sexy, not like some third-rate porn production. I’m not saying you won’t get those little surprise treats now and then—but you’ve got to work for them. Luckily, the brain is our biggest sex organ, and most women have fantasy lives that leave your porn sites in the dust. You know one of the reasons why women aren’t more into porn? Because almost all of it is created by men and for men, who don’t have a clue about what really turns a woman on. Wanna know what does turn us on? Ask us, engage us. Which brings me to…

3. Do Unto Others. Want hot sex? You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Simply put, you’ve got to give as good as you get. Do I need to spell it out for you? If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours, too! And if you do it first? All the better. Most women orgasm best from clitoral stimulation.

4. Give Us Space. It seems counterintuitive, but letting your partner have some time to herself can help her recharge. Offer to watch the kids for a few hours so she can meet a friend for coffee, take a book to the beach, or relax in a bubble bath. This "time off" lets her wind down so that later she’ll be ready to heat up. And by the way, watching your kids isn’t "babysitting". They’re your children—play with them like you mean it. Be a dad, not a bachelor. Remember, a lot of us find nothing sexier than a dad who’s into his kids.

5. Talk—and Listen. I know, I know: Many of you would probably rather clean that toilet than be forced to "communicate." But I’m not asking for an hours-long heart-to-heart here. Spending 20 minutes connecting with your partner and listening to her talk can help her feel appreciated. Avoid stressful topics like your kids, work, and home and stick to larger issues like current events and the world around you. Respond with full sentences, not grunts. If you can remember and repeat something she said 12 hours later, she’ll be impressed—and you’ll be one step closer to sex.

Love Lessons Learned From Marilyn Monroe Herself

2011-11-25T12:03:00.000-05:00

Throughout the history of cinema, there has never been another screen legend quite like Marilyn Monroe—although her talent was often overshadowed by her many failed loves and her sex-symbol status. But even through the tough times, fighting illness and battling back from relationship woes, she was never without her sense of humor and many words of wisdom.

I thought about writing little love-lesson anecdotes in honor of what would have been Marilyn's 85th birthday, but then it hit me: How silly. Why not let Marilyn speak for herself? She always did throughout her life, and her words still ring true today. (She was way ahead of her time.) Marilyn Monroe Hormone Identified

So, here's a recap of the five most important lessons the icon taught us about love, and really, about life too.

1. Know what you deserve in a relationship—you're worth your weight in gold. "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."

2. So what if you break up? Tomorrow will be a better day. "I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

3. True love is about more than grand gestures. It's about the little things, too. "The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space."

4. If you want something, don't wait for a man to make it happen. Go after it. "How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?"

5. If at first you don't succeed... "As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them—actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole, and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about."

Well said, Marilyn!

Missionary is preferred...Please.

2011-11-22T12:01:00.000-05:00

While the majority of us like it vanilla, handcuff and vibrator-buyers prefer a little more flavor.

More times than not, the missionary position gets a lot of flack for being a "boring" way to do the nasty. And we see what everyone means—it's the go-to sex style, the position you've likely been doing since you lost your virginity oh-so-long ago.

But apparently, not everyone agrees. In fact, most Americans prefer the comfort and face-to-face intimacy of missionary, according to the latest survey results from adult toy company Adam & Eve.

In a web-based poll of 1,000 American adults, 32 percent chose missionary as their preferred position. Rear-entry (ahem, doggy-style) and cowgirl (girl on top) were close behind, however, with 23 percent and 22 percent of the vote, respectively. Only 7 percent chose the 69 position, while 6 percent chose spooning and 4 percent liked reverse cowgirl.

So while missionary is clearly the favorite, Americans are still pretty split in terms of how they like to get it on.

Unless, of course, you ask Adam & Eve's Facebook fans. Interestingly, results from the kinky company's fans were notably different. More than half (53 percent) preferred "rear-entry" (can we please just call it doggy-style lest it be confused with... something else?), followed by cowgirl (29 percent). The missionary position and reverse cowgirl each received only 6 percent of the votes.

The sex experts at Adam & Eve say their customers are more adventurous than your average Joe, which makes sense. If you're buying sex swings and anal plugs, you're likely not as attached to gazing into your partner's eyes during penetration.

What's your favorite position?

Boring Sex Positions are Better then Original Ones

2011-11-20T11:53:00.000-05:00

It seems like every year an article or book on new! sex! positions! is published, giving us all ideas for exciting! innovative! ways! we can hang from the chandelier, back our partner against a wall, or do it doggie style in the shed. The truth is, these books keep being written because they sell. I know. I once made a DVD tauting 101 Positions for Lovers.

Don't get me wrong, it's great to attempt sex while playing a game of wheelbarrow or standing at opposite ends of a door frame, but really, how often does anyone do that? Honestly, standing on my head is not only not the best sex I can have, but hello head rush.

Sex position books and videos do a good job at having us believe that if we don't bend into a pretzel, we have the most boring sex ever. But, like most women, I prefer sex in certain positions. In fact, there are four basic sex positions I really enjoy. They're probably the ones you like, too.

Missionary, woman on top (aka cowgirl/reverse cowgirl), spooning, and doggie style.

I'll even go as far as to say some women love standing shower sex, but showers are, in my opinion, meant for getting clean more often than they are for getting down. If you read between the lines in the sex-of-the-day books, you can decode what's really happening. It has less to do with the bold moves, and more to do with the small strokes.

Let me explain.

It's the little lifts, lowers, leg squeezes, and positioning of our hands and feet that make a move work well or fail big. So instead of trying to get your partner into piledriver (NSFW), why not try some realistic tweaks that can turn your tried and true sex positions into best! new! sex! you've had in a while.

Missionary. Change where you place your hands. For instance, he generally places his hands on either side of your neck. Instead, have him place both his hands to the left of your head. Have him angle his body that way too. Then try the right. Even if it feels like a small change to you, it can make a big difference.

Woman on Top. For a long time I didn't get what was so great about controlling the angle, depth, and level of penetration. Woman on top seemed like a lot of unnecessary leg work and although I've always enjoyed reverse cowgirl (I have a thing for feet), I wasn't very forward thinking about this position. That all changed with my last boyfriend who introduced me to what we affectionately dubbed "the silk screen." While I was on top of him, facing forward, he would place his fingers on both sides of my butt cheeks and press down, like he was silk-screening a shirt. The pressure and downward movement kept both of us feeling the friction and had me screaming for more.

Spooning. Besides spooning sex being all cuddly, I love spooning because it's the kind of sex you can wake up and do without worrying about Godzilla breath. Not only can spooning sex be super intimate without the kissing, but it's also a great G-spot position. Use a pillow (or two) under your side to see how that lifts more than your mood.

Doggie Style. Ah, doggie. The closer position that brings many a man to his knees. Not only does this position help him feel like the big man on campus, but a slight arch in the back or a bend in the arms can make a big difference. Work on how you position your legs as you play with the arch in your back, too. Instead of your legs being inside his, use your legs outside of his, to clench his thighs together. Or scissor your legs for another sensation.

Are you going to try one of these tonight? What's your favorite sex position with a twist?

Oral Sex 101: What you need to know!

2011-11-18T11:49:00.000-05:00

What a man really wants out of oral pleasure.

Well let's see. Rate yourself on a scale of 1 through 5, with 5 being the top score. Contrary to popular belief, all men are not interested in getting their penises sucked. Only about 98% of the male population is interested.

If you don't like doing it, it leaves you in the position of finding the 2% of men who do not care anything about it. This is not a favorable position to be in. The odds are exceedingly against you. But keep in mind that it's always better to know what to do and not need it, than need it and not know what to do. Who knows? One day it may grow on you. (Pun intended.) Now, if you're ready to get your hands dirty, continue to read on. Tease & Please: 7 Lessons You Can Learn From Strippers EXPERT

You have to go at it like a gangster. Put your game face on. It's like anything else: If you're going to do something, you have to do it right. You have to give it 110%. You can't go in there like a baby. Grab the microphone! You cannot be afraid to touch it. You can't put a rubber on it and go in there with gloves and a mask on. Safe sex is always a legitimate concern, so use your own discretion.

You cannot go in there half-assed. If you are not going to do it right, it is best you just tell him you cannot do it at all. Think of yourself as Madonna. Pretend you are about to perform a solo in front of thousands. Your goal is to make his eyes roll up into the back of his head. Once you've reached this point, know that you have achieved perfection. You can feel totally satisfied. You can confidently say to yourself, "I've got him now!"

Please remember there are no teeth in sucking a penis ... ever. If you leave teeth marks on a man's penis, you have violated the penis sucking code. Use no teeth at all costs. OUCH! Safe Sex Etiquette For Singles

Once you have done your job, and he tries to get you to back off him, then let it rip. Yell out like a mad woman, "High Ho Silver Yee Haw!" The whole point is that although you have just achieved perfection, be a beast! Act as if you are going to rip his proverbial microphone off. Now with that look in your eye, let the real games begin. He will be begging for mercy and you will show no mercy. It's almost as if you are going to suck everything in it out. He could well cry STOP! I know it may sound a little bit cruel but in the end he will love you for it once you bring him right back to the next climax.

Once he regains himself, he is going to turn around and give you that energy right back. A man who is in tune wants to give you the same pleasure. You will have a sex session for the ages.

The science of what you have now done is to create so much passion that the energy must go somewhere. In this case, it will go from him, right back up into you! This is the formula. Most women do not know this because they act too timidly, too scared, and they lie, boring while wanting passion not knowing how to create it. You have to remember: men have a competitive nature.

Sometimes you must challenge that nature in a positive way. When you challenge it in a positive way you create passion. No other woman will be able to compete with you unless she knows what you know. Unless she is willing to do what you do for your man, she will not be able to compete and create this same energy over and over. It is about re-creating this energy again and again. 3 Choices That Lead To A Passionate Relationship

The good thing for you is that most people are lazy and unwilling to do the work, only wanting the reward. 90% of the population lies dormant supported by 10% of the people that are willing to go the extra mile. If you know this, all you have to be is a little bit above average. We're giving you the full spectrum.

You can choose where you want to fall in the equation because we're telling you how to go from zero to sixty. What you decide to do is up to you. We're giving you all of the information. Some may not be able to give 110%. Maybe their very best is 80%, but it's what you do with that 80% that matters the most. It's all about giving your best effort. Ladies, do I need to say anymore?

Quick Tips
If you are still confused about how to give oral sex, it is recommended that you go to your neighborhood market and purchase a 6 pack of Big Sticks. These popsicles are usually yellow and red and sometimes Pink. The colors are very pleasing to the eye and shaped much like an erect penis. Think about it being a hot summer day and you must keep the Big Stick from dripping on to your hands. 10 Tips For Better, Bolder, Braver Oral Sex

If the juice has melted and dripped to the bottom, you must go to the bottom of it and lick it to prevent it from dripping on your hands. If the juice drips on to your hands, then you have failed the initial penis sucking test. Once you have stopped the juice from dripping on to your hands, then go back to the top and suck it like a normal Popsicle. When it starts melting again, you have to run back to the bottom to make sure it doesn't drip onto your hands. It's constantly melting, so you have to be aware of the top and the bottom. Just repeat this process over and over again and you will be well on your way. You will be ready to get into the game.

Disclaimer
Do not play with this energy unless you want this man to really love you. In the case it is not love, he could potentially stalk you.

Simon S. — Relationship Coach

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Christmas is Coming!

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